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I have heard (I don't have any proof) that polygamous couples often have a favorite. Example; man with 4 wives usually favors one and his offspring with her..
What is your point? They often don't have a favourite and they share equally.
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Also when people have an affair and they are all infatuated they usually get so close to their new lover-they start pushing their partner away.. They become fixated and obsessed on this new love..
"An affaire" is not the same as a polyamourous situation. Once again you bring cheating into the scenario when polyamory does not have anything to do with cheating.
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When male hamsters were injected with vasopressin (male pair bonding hormone) they started marking their territory like crazy all over their cage. When montane voles (who are normally promiscuous) were injected with vasopressin they stopped multiple shagging and became fixated and obsessed with ONE female...
Well I guess we could inject all human males with vasopressin to see how they reacted. ?
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Apparantly men who were tested for vasopressin-those who had the correct proportion of it were all in happy relationships with no crisis in the past year. Those who had a deformity to their vasopressin receptor hormones-reported unhappy relationships with at least one crisis in the past year.
Whats this got to do with polyamory?
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I am not saying polygamous relationships dont or cant work. I am saying for the majority of humans-people who have the correct proportion of all their bonding hormones it is rare that they would want more than one.
Please sort your source that men who have the correct proportion of their bonding hormones only want one. I know there are men who only want one (many of them) but that doesn't mean that we were all meant to be monogamous. I have the ability to see two sides of this even though I am monogamous by nature.
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And WU saying that some of those monogamous animals cheat doesn't prove anything. That could be 1 in 100 for all we know. The people looking for that evidence are only searching for one side of the argument so it is biased.
The point is: Even animals that were once deemed to be monogamous, are not.
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I have not seen any scientific evidence what so ever to say that humans are not meant to be monogamous. I have found a lot of evidence on the other side of the argument. Plus it goes way back to the time of the dinosaurs who were very like humans in their bonding and family behavior and they male and female were both alpha (like wolves) the reason those animals survived for so long (like humans) is because of their family dynamic
All you have to do is use your common sense to realize that, as I said earlier, the world was not populated by one monogamous couple.