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Statement 1 is complete truth, and this is often what is going on. Not always complaints, but the "friends" (male and/or female) or often confiding about problems or situations in their current relationship, intimate details, that to be honest, if it weren't someone they were 'drawn to' they'd never share.
Perhaps this is what you gathered from your experiences and those of your friends. It just isn't *always* the case though. For example: one of the two guy friends I discussed is extremely shy. I met him during our first year at university. I had made lots of friends already, he had made none (he commutes from another town). One day I sat next to him (casually), and during the lesson initiated small talk (as I would've done with any other person). So I was his first "friend" in that new environment, and we've developed a close friendship since. I've seen him meeting girls whom he finds attractive for the first time - believe me, I'm really not one of them. Well actually, you don't need to believe me, I know how it is ;-).
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I'm saying that when a man and a woman, who generally find each other attractive, start to develop a true friendship, there usually is intent with one or both of them (maybe not from day 1). A true friendship is someone you can confide in, share intimate feelings and thoughts with. When it comes to the opposite sex, that you're attracted to, it can be dangerous water to tread.
When a man and a woman *who find each other attractive* start to develop a friendship, it can turn (and it most often does) into romantic feelings from at least one of the two persons involved. If they don't find each other attractive at first, they can still "change their minds" at some point and realize that they are attracted to the other person after all (happened to me). There are, on the other hand, cases of people who never do change their minds, and are simply friends (close friends) with one another. I believe the lack of attraction is the only way that men and women can be true friends, without it being wrong for eventual relationships, or in any case the source of painful heartbreak. Only in extremely rare, and lucky, occasions, a close friendship with someone you are attracted to can turn into a wonderful romantic relationship with them. As you said, they're dangerous waters, one needs to be willing to take the risk if they choose to make friends with someone they're attracted to. JMO :-)!