Things I learned from my "mom"
1. Coercion and threats are the first way to get what you want from your family members.
2. If coercion and threats fail, use physical violence.
3. When physical violence begins failing, resort to withholding your love. If they know you regard them as unworthy of love, they'll beg to have it back*
*of course, you have to actually show love beforehand for that to have effect. Mom: Fail.
It's ok "Mom". I've learned better now. I've learned what love is, and what it isn't... and what it isn't, I mostly learned from you. When my father dies, there's an excellent chance we'll never speak again - I'm good with that.