Dumped on Vday while half way around the world..
First time poster.... looking to understand
I [31 M] left for Korea for a week for a conference organizing meeting. I lived with my [26 F] girlfriend. Been dating for 2+ years and I thought everything was great and we were in love and would get engaged in the next year.
On v-day over an instant chat program she would not say I love you. I asked her about it and she said she didn't want talk and was going to bed. I asked if she was breaking up with me and she wouldn't answer. I said then I had to assume she didn't love me anymore since she refused to say it and was breaking up with me. She refused to talk saying she didn't want to talk over the computer and refused to skype either. The next three days were horrible, alone and on the other side of the world.
I come home to find that she moved all her stuff out of the house while I was gone and had moved back in with her parents. She said she didn't love me anymore and had to change herself to be in the relationship with me. She had never said this before and to be honest I thought I was a really great boyfriend, never made her change, and if anything I was the one that had to adapt to her. I had no warning and thought we were rock solid together. I had always known her to be thoughtful and kind and I find what she did just cruel and out of character. No discussion just dumped on vday while away and came home to another surprise rather than discussion.
I am really at a loss here. I think maybe her negative parents were involved as she had to have had help moving all her stuff so quickly. She says this was not planned before I left but I have trouble believing that. She has been vegan for the past few months and I wonder if this could be part of the issue and if it affected her mood / thinking in some way. Otherwise I am really at a loss... what do you think?
