I'm not getting it. I heard, read, and personally believed that I needed to extend myself and interact more with ladies--and that's what I'm doing, flirting, smiling, and asking them out. I do that with many types of ladies--ones I'm not really into, ones I am into, and others I don't think I have a chance with. However, I'm just not receiving the hints or whatever subtle messages that I believe happens when a girl is interested in you or when I think she wants you to ask her out.
There's this one girl whom I thought I might be a good match with. I know her from the store she works at, I see her in school, her brother is one of my classmates, and my friends like/approve of her too. Whenever I run into her at her work or school, we chat, she doesn't try to run away or hide, she even asked me to sit by her in the computer lab one time, when I wanted to leave before I thought she would hint at me to leave. I'm cool with her brother, and I think he approves of me. Physically, I think her and I are the same, we're both attractive and both have our obvious flaws. Not to sound off the wall, but I'm thinking if she ever wanted to find somebody who is marriage material, here's a possibility. However, when I invited her to my sister's friend's july 4th party, this friday, she said she had to ask her mom first (she's 22), and the store she work's at doesn't close until 7pm. She said, she'll let me know. I was like "What? You don't even have any way of contacting me. The only way I would know that is if I went to the store you worked at or we ran into each other in school". I didn't show that emotion, however, that's what was running through my mind. It's perfectly okay though, cause I kinda thought she might decline, since I never really got any hint from her for me to ask her out. What've been cool though was that if she'd ask me for my phone number or email, so she can actually get back to me, but that never happened. So, I'm wondering how can I really tell when someone's really interested in me (not ambivalent, wishy-washy or whatever)