The issues run in the family. A lot of sick delusions. He started to convince me that i was really losing it, that i was insane.Quote:
Originally Posted by SD64 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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The issues run in the family. A lot of sick delusions. He started to convince me that i was really losing it, that i was insane.Quote:
Originally Posted by SD64 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
me too, i know as time goes by i'll get through it. It's just so hard to grasp right now.Quote:
Originally Posted by dnna1 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Sorry to hear that Bo. Hang in there (:
This sounds very regret [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm trying. I'm just so shocked still. And he won't leave me alone. And I shouldn't be but I'm so worried about him. I can see now that he needS help, he needs therapy. He fits all the criteria for narcissistic personality disorder. He needs serious mental help.Quote:
Originally Posted by asdfg789 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
This^. Hugs from me too, Bo. You'll be fine, you sound better already.Quote:
Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
He's a jerk. You are so better off w/o him. The breakups are when they really show their colours.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Thanks Indie, I can definitely use all the hugs I can get right now....and then I gotta deal with all my different emotions. I miss him, I hate him, I love him, I'm horny, I'm beyond pissed, I'm sad and resentful....too much to deal with.Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It's true, one second he tells me i'm bitch and i'm fake for believing what ppl told me. The next second he loves me and he's never gonna give up on me. It's exhausting.Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Thanks i've thought about that, I just don't know. I think i'll see things differently down the road but I'm trying to get my head wrapped around all this. I'm definitely not the same person I was before, I'm not sure if that's good or bad.Quote:
Originally Posted by SD64 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I don't know how I will ever trust someone again...EVER.
I feel like someone died. It's been about five days and I'm miserable.
Its an expansion of Vash's point, but I think this captures the problem beautifully. When people say they feel lonely in a relationship, I think this^ is what they refer to. Partners/spouses should "always have your back" so to speak. When that's not there, or they can't for whatever reason (lack of trust, disagreement in values) then its time to consider moving on.Quote:
Originally Posted by SD64 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
This I know, I just wish "knowing" this would make it hurt less.Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
The hurt isn't from him tho. Its b/c you finally realize he isn't the guy who could be the one who'd "have your back". Its the failed expectation. As soon as you realize that you are now free to go out and find that person who *will* be a real partner to you (and you to him), the hurt will be much less. You'll see that both of you are actually better off. Remember, his behaviour was preventing *you* from being a good partner for him also. Its doubly disappointing when you think of it like that, and therefore doubly good that you two are finally moving on.
Don't most all abusers say such things? Words mean nothing when they are'nt backed up with action. Don't even consider taking him back. He needs therapy before he'll be ready to be anyone's decent partner. If you feel yourself weakening and wanting to believe his words that have no substance then consider getting your own bit of councelling to help you be stronger in your conviction of not ever wanting anything to do with him again.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
This is the perfect opportunity for you to make yourself your number one priority. You now can concentrate on making you the best you that you can be without worrying about all the stuff that made you angst ridden and insecure during your time with him. In time (and what you do with your time) you'll look back and be glad you're free of him.