It will be ok, stand up for yourself and talk it out!
I understand where you're coming from. I've been there before, on both sides! Haha It's that a majority of relationships end due to financial issues. So getting your understanding down on this topic is very important. I would have a casual chat w/ him and let him know it bothers you the way he checks up on you, and ask if you could have a month to handle things on your own, and if you can't keep up, then you would appreciate his help. But he has to step back and let you try it on your own if he respects you. I got some advice for my relationship on this website my cousin told me about where you can chat free with relationship experts. The link is wizpert.com/amforum Check it out! They may be able to help more. The guy I talk with is called Jc if you can find him. Best of luck to you!!
Take care,
Stacy
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Hello,
I am engaged to a really great guy. He is very responsible in every way. He has great credit, owns his own home, and is always reliable. He is the first guy who I have dated like this in a very long time. I have always been the responsible one in the relationship, and even supported a few boyfriends and friends in the past. My credit isn't perfect anymore, and I am not always on time when I go places, even work, though it's not a huge deal at the company I work for. My problem is that my fiance thinks it's a huge deal, and doesn't trust me to pay my own bills or go to work on time. He constantly asks me when i'm leaving for work, questions me if I leave late, opens my bills, and asks me if I have been paying things. Am I wrong to be annoyed about this? I feel like it comes from a good place, but I want him to respect me enough to know that I can handle things on my own. If I am vague, he says that I am making things up or lying, which really upsets me because it's none of his business to begin with, and even more so, I do not lie, and don't like being accused of it. Do you all have any opinions or advice to share with me?
Thank you!