Love or friendzone?

There's this girl who seems to really care for me, how do I know that? Well I've had some issues irl and she has been trying to make me feel happy ever since then so I texted her with "I can't believe you're this nice to me, I really appreciate it, you're one of a kind" and she was like "You're super nice..that's really sweet..I just treat people the way I want to be treated. I also hate seeing people have bad times." So we kept going on and eventually I got this text "I wish there were more guys like you."

And here I am wondering whether I am in the friendzone or not. So does she love me? Is she interested or is it just her trying to be nice?

Does she love you? No (you don't know what love is if you ask this question)
Is she interested? Probably, but you'll need to ask HER (not us) to find out. I think she is.

I'm afraid to ask her man she's still speaking with her ex. She says they're just friends but "friends" haha that never works after a break up so it's probably something else.

So what made me think I was in the friendzone? She told me that me and two other guys are her closest "guy friends." Please tell me I am screwed.

I won't accept being in the friendzone so please tell me what I should ask her. What would you text this girl if you thought she was interested in you and you really liked that her so much?

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Originally Posted by Itanimulli [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I'm afraid to ask her man she's still speaking with her ex. She says they're just friends but "friends" haha that never works after a break up so it's probably something else.

So what made me think I was in the friendzone? She told me that me and two other guys are her closest "guy friends." Please tell me I am screwed.

I won't accept being in the friendzone so please tell me what I should ask her. What would you text this girl if you thought she was interested in you and you really liked that her so much?

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How old are you? I'm 28, so I wouldn't waste my time with a text, I'd either wait until I see her next and ask her out, or call her up all old-fashioned and tell her I'd like to take her on a date. (you MUST use the word "date" to avoid confusion).

Don't be afraid of rejection, life is full of it. It is best to get used to the idea now and apply the lessons forward.

I am 17 (fairly young for texting lol) so what would you recommend me texting her?

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Originally Posted by Itanimulli [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I am 17 (fairly young for texting lol) so what would you recommend me texting her?

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"I like you, want to go on a date with me?"

Damn man I'm not a pussy but a rejection from her would be a freaking hit in the gut. I'm really into her and I wouldn't want a rejection. Damn when you tell you it'd feel like a lowblow I really mean it. I'm just afraid she's trying to get with her ex again. I just hope not but who knows.

I don't think she's in love with you just yet... But I do think she likes you. Ask her out, champ. :)

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Originally Posted by Itanimulli [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Damn man I'm not a pussy but a rejection from her would be a freaking hit in the gut. I'm really into her and I wouldn't want a rejection. Damn when you tell you it'd feel like a lowblow I really mean it. I'm just afraid she's trying to get with her ex again. I just hope not but who knows.

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Hope is for pussies, fear of rejection is for pussies. A man takes action, and gets what he wants or admits defeat when he has exhausted all options. Right now you're standing in place because you're afraid of her reaction, and afraid of who she may or may not be talking to!

Trust me, if you do nothing, and she finds someone else, you'll spend a lot longer than you think wishing you had made a simple move.

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Originally Posted by Cerby [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Hope is for pussies, fear of rejection is for pussies. A man takes action, and gets what he wants or admits defeat when he has exhausted all options. Right now you're standing in place because you're afraid of her reaction, and afraid of who she may or may not be talking to!

Trust me, if you do nothing, and she finds someone else, you'll spend a lot longer than you think wishing you had made a simple move.

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Originally Posted by Rowen [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I don't think she's in love with you just yet... But I do think she likes you. Ask her out, champ. :)

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Oh shit. Here we go. I'm coming for you and you better not freaking reject me girl. I'm a freaking winner and I'm not losing her. Shit you guys how to make someone feel confident.

Go for it, the worst outcome is she says she isn't interested and you both move on. I like to make a joke out of it if I get turned down :P

I'm going to do it. I will update you guys with the outcome. We'll all make a joke about it together alright?

Ask her out for coffee/tea, and find out about what she is really look for. Whether she says yes/no, then tell her no problem, will happy to be friends.

She says she'd like to go on a date with me this week if she does not have any tests or so. Should I be happy or?

Yes, you should be happy now call her back and tell her you'll pick her up at 7:00 on Friday (or whatever day is good for you) and tell her where you'll be taking her. Then ask her if that time is good for her.

Just keep your heart off your sleeve until you're sure she's not going to go back to her ex.

P.S. Good for you for taking that step to ask her out, glad the guys gave you such a good pep talk. :)

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Originally Posted by Itanimulli [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Damn man I'm not a pussy but a rejection from her would be a freaking hit in the gut.

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Rejection's not always a bad thing, sometimes a person will reject you because they think you are too good for them. In relationships people look for compatibility and if things aren't balanced then it won't work out, so sometimes getting rejected is a compliment. So Itanimulli, now you truly have nothing to lose, ask her out, it's a win-win situation!!!

Just remember even if she goes out with you doesn't mean you are gonna get to hit that any time soon. A date is just a test run to see if there is any chemistry. So just relax and take it as it comes...don't have excessive expectations. Who knows you might find her boring or something so it does go both ways.

I really need to kiss her on our first date so what would you guys recommend doing, any tips or so? I want her to know that I love her should I tell her that on our date? Any "topic tips" before telling her directly that I love her?

Do NOT tell her that you love her on the first date. That is a recipe for disaster my friend. Love is a thing that should be mutual. If you have to tell her anything say that you really like her. Just arrange another date at the end of this one if it goes well, and see what her response is. Kiss her goodnight and see if she enjoys that. Wait to tell her you love her until you've established that she might have feelings for you to. Telling people you love them too early, can scare people away from the relationship.

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Originally Posted by Itanimulli [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I really need to kiss her on our first date so what would you guys recommend doing, any tips or so? I want her to know that I love her should I tell her that on our date? Any "topic tips" before telling her directly that I love her?

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Good god just relax.....you don't want to drive her away jumpin on her like a slobbering dog. Put away your excitement for now and just be calm and cool. Make her earn your attention...girls like a challenge, some mystery. Do NOT be a lovey dovey mushy love sick wuss, girls don't like that at all.

never EVER tell her you love her.....you wait till you are officially together for about a month of so at least.

I got friendzoned, hahahahahhahahahahahaha oh god this is just too funny. Ah well at least I grew some balls. Should I keep pushing on to get out of the friendzone or should I just move on?

You can't get out, she doesn't find you BF material or even sexually attracted....that is what being friend zoned is all about. Yes move on.

Ah well life goes on thanks guys..

I also told her i dont want to be friends anymore. Shit i feel really evil. But i cant maintain a friendship with someone i wanted so bad I gotta get over her.

Ya good plan.....

I feel like this is the only solution man..

Sorry about getting friendzoned man. At least you took a shot and got a straight answer though! Good for you. Unfortunately for myself, (i'm in a similar situation) the girl i left a voicemail for, hasn't responded to me. In any way, shape or form. The lack of respect. :(

She explained why I got that answer and that was because she thought I was like one of the sweetest friends she had and that she knew I would be there for her whenever she felt down. She wanted it to remain that way because she's still feeling down after the break up with her ex and she counted on me being there for her to help her recover. I feel like a total di-- right now.

Start to back off, do the fade till eventually, you don't talk/meetup at all. Sticking around to be her emotional tampon will stagnate you from having a clear head/emotions to look for someone that wants a romantic relationship with you.

You can't remain platonic friends with someone you want more with... it's just you torturing yourself while she sucks you dry (and not in the good way).

I can't back off she just started to text me again..

I don't want to rain on your parade, but there is such a thing called timing, and if you get it wrong, your chances of getting her again could end up being 0. So, you have to know when it's time to move in with this, don't just pop the question at a random time, as you might get a random answer.

Ok, never mind. When I posted the above I hadn't read the second page of the thread and apparently you went ahead with it.

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Originally Posted by Itanimulli [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I can't back off she just started to text me again..

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Well that's your choice then.....IMO your time is better spent on being the sweetest guy to someone else who wants you as their BF.

I dont know but she keeps giving me random hints like "i cant be together with "guynamehere" cause we are too alike it wouldnt work between us" etc it's like she wants me to keep chasing her and eventually become her BF. Well the reason I'm saying this is because she explained that she plays "HARD" because she wants a long and perfect relationship, she wants someone that really cares for her, etc. I'm very impatient so I don't know what to do here should I just drop her like completely? Because I have started to text other girls now..

Your her male GIRLFRIEND.

No way? Thats not freaking true man.

Dude keep talking to other girls....this other girl plays stupid games....and girls who play stupid games are the worst to have a relationship with....you are better off dropping her to save the bs that you would still be going through.

I know shes playing games with me. I think you guys are right. I should just ignore her.