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As it turns out, I'm already completely over this girl now since the time I first wrote this, so I really don't care.

However, I disagree about the asking to put my arm around her being a big...

" I reckon she probably wasn't all that into you to start with. Some people are just good at faking what a great time they had - outta politeness I guess."

If she just wanted to be "polite",...

I basically suggested exactly what carlosaugustine did - except he gave you some pretty good actual lines to use to start an interaction with her. So yeah, go with what carlosaugustine said, but...

^ I think that's probably the most likely scenario as well. (especially given that she probably-not-so-coincidentally removed her okcupid account at the same time this has happened - a sign she is...

Hey, who am I to say you're wrong?

I've taken the direct approach before to. It definitely can work.

It just depends on the situation, what you feel will work better. I was trying to envision...

Nothing wrong with a good gym buddy. Good luck.

I've had things not work out before. I've had girlfriends, and I know why she broke up with me or I broke up with her, etc.. I've had dating partners that didn't lead to anything more serious for...

Just remember, the first time will be the hardest, and every time after that will be much easier. So just get brave and do it one day.

Well, it may not be make or break, but why wouldn't you do something that can seriously help your chances?

And actually, the gym might have an added significance for someone like you. It's...

Haha I think I'll just keep it to here. Listen, I really recommend going to the gym - you may feel self-conscious about it now because you've never done it before, but after a few times there you...

Alright dude, I have 4 years on you of acquired experience, and 4 years ago I wasn't all that different from you, so I think I can offer you some pretty good advice.

You're an 18 year old guy,...

I don't think it's the med school thing for her right now, because otherwise she wouldn't have been looking for a relationship in the first place. Although I agree med school is brutal and that it's...

Yeah, you have nothing to lose. You sound like you're very close to her and she's not going to give you up as a friend just because you spilled your guts to her.

Find a moment. A moment where...

The reason I like my approach better in this case is because we're talking about an attractive 18-20 year old who probably gets hit on god knows how many times at this gym, so OP has to establish...

After saying hello, say "My name's _______, by the way. What's yours?". Then she'll tell you her name.

Then I can't help you. Start talking about something that seems natural to talk about. ...

I met a girl on a dating website. She lives in New York. I'm from New York but go to school in Montreal. I will graduate in April and be in New York full time after that. I initiated contact with...