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I have to disagree here. It's rare, but it happens. My wife would be quite happy to never have sex and doesn't miss it at all. There is no deep psychological reason, believe me I've tried to...

Thanks. I have one of each, a son almost twelve and a daughter 7 and half. They are great kids. As I've mentioned though, I don't think externally we are showing that many signs ... there isnt any...

Mongoose - I know what you mean about don't settle for fear of not finding better. Looking back now I wonder if there was an element of that in my decision to get married. But it's easier said than...

Hi. I feel for you I really do. As you noted in my thread, you can see what happens eventually. I am a very loyal guy and value stability immensely, so much so I've put up with the incompatibility...

One more thing. Yes fear of being alone is a factor I won't deny it. A bigger factor though is the kids, I think it would have an enormous impact on them. But if I stay just for them, then leave when...

Be really sure you can live without it. Don't think you can change her ... I've tried. Ultimately my wife says she doesn't want to change. Would I do it again? Probably, because we have had good...

Thanks for the replies. I can appreciate what you are saying about my wife's perspective, but I don't think you can use the typical point of view in this case. She really is mostly happy with her own...

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Hope this is the right forum to seek some advice. I recently posted a thread in the Broken Hearts forum but I think this one is more appropriate here.

Some background – a much shorter...

Thanks everyone, that's all really helpful.

Ashley, I'm really interested in the journal. Do you keep what you have written? I ask because my pysch said that writing down feelings was great...

Thanks. Yes I agree on the forum, it helps. I think your description Steviej was spot on. I'll keep on trying. I guess the other thing is not to expect miracles overnight.

Steviej: we have discussed an amicable split. The problem is apart from the lack of intimacy we are still good friends. There's no hate or dislike. So we have decided on counseling, I think after 14...

Hi again. Hopefully some of you have read my thread and my unusual situation.

The point of this thread though is for those also suffering a broken heart, how do you take action to help yourself? ...

The other thing I would add is if you have a history of suicidal thoughts, and you fear these may recur, then seek help immediately. I know every country is different but I'm sure there are resources...

Wow that's awesome. Well said and good luck with the new life!

I agree with steviej, there are no rules just what you feel. Everyone is different. What I think is more common or consistent are the strategies fir getting over heartbreak, like staying busy,...

I don't have any constructive advice other than to empathize and to say I feel for you. Really hope it works out, this kinda pain sucks.

Hi. To me it sounds like you did nothing wrong and he just wasn't the right person for you. I've just gone through - am going through - an unusual situation ( see my thread) where I thought I had...

Well the ex-gf and I have exchanged messages over the last 24 hours and it's clear that it isn't going to work. She gave it some thought but rejected the idea. She wants to focus on her marriage...

Update. Last night it just all got too much. I talked with my wife, ultimately we decided that we both hated to see me like this. We've agreed to go to counselling but we both know that it can't...

I'm weakening, I really want to contact her. Hate this.

Thanks again, appreciate you sharing. I'm still in such a confused state, even though I've made the decision to stay and try for the sake of the kids, I still can't help checking my email desperately...

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I think I am extremely qualified to offer you some advice here. I'm in my late thirties and and have been married for 14 years. I have two children. And I have no intimacy in my marriage...

Exactly. I know its not easy to forget but you need positivity right now. Focus on your health and the people who care. Hope you recover both emotionally and physically real soon.

I like this DarkHelmet. Good advice.