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I think he doesn't really recognize things for what they are. In some ways, he's very mature and understanding. In other ways I think he's clueless. Months and months ago we were talking about our...

Totally.

Pledging to 30 days of no contact is good for space + breathing room + letting the up-and-down emotions just...settle. We'll see where we come out on the other side. It's like a huge,...

Y'all - was thinking more and more about some of the things said here and decided to withdraw from the whole situation. For myself and for him and for just general peace+having a break from...

Speaking of inherent possessiveness...the few times I *have* mentioned other guys with him, he made kinda snarky or joking comments like "a straight guy wrote you all that?" and "no (my name), I...

I feel burned by the situation but I do care for him a lot. I agree that the close friendship will inevitably run into these same problems at some point in the future hence this pause+think+decide...

Well thanks for your vote of confidence...

WakeUp, are you saying that if he and I maintain a close friendship that this is all going to come up again? It's why I wanted to settle the matter vs...

I think if we took this as a pivotal time of ok, we had this opportunity and are deciding it's not right to be romantic partners, then the issue csn be settled. A cooling off period is good after...

Okay. Thanks. I do think there are ways to have a win-win outcome for both parties. I'm sorry you disagree. Someone doesn't always have to lose. Thanks again.

I hear you, wakeup. I just sometimes find your tone preachy and kind of disrespectful. You make some very valid points...yes, he should've manned up too. I see where things went wrong. But the...

He's not fawning over me...if he does, I've said I'd like to try exploring a physical relationship now. But if he said he doesn't have romantic feelings, then that's it. We put it behind us, bury the...

It is well past fault and blame ! What bearz said is true and accurate in our case, yes.

The imminent feelings I have are desire to get back to the place where we were (or close to it) before it...

I want to make this right and learn what I can do to have him in my life as a positive figure again, and I want to be a positive person in his life too. If there's something more-than-friends...

I feel burned by the situation and he does too. I feel strongly about him and I know he feels strongly too. Whether the ronantic potential that was there before can be fostered again is what I want...

Telling me he is going one place and doing something else is a lie. He said he was sorry he lied and deceived me.

He didn't owe me an explanation of wanting to explore things with her! I didn't...

I'm so sorry you think I was playing with him. I wasn't! It wasn't until around Christmastime that we started spending more time together and I began seeing him differently. I honestly thought we...

Sorry if it wasn't clear...

He used to occasionally hook up with this woman a while ago. Maybe 5 times or so every few months. He said they had a physical connectionbut he never felt anything...

I care for him a whole lot...he's one of my best friends. I feel like ultimatums can be really unfair...but I don't know how wise it is to try to have a close friendship now that all this has been...

I thought we had been open and honest with each other....except for having the courage to address our growing romantic tension. He suppressed it because he was afraid to mess up the friendship/ the...

Bearz -thank you so much. He said he didn't feel anything more than friends and that it'd take a whole lot for him to feel that way again if ever. ..I don't know if I should take that at face value...

That is pretty much how I see it too, though I foolishly was pretty open with how I was feeling (good and bad) in the aftermath...I was angry and hurt and said cruel things. I can see how that would...

Oops, please excuse me then! I'm sorry about that.

Hi everyone - I'm new to this forum but really need some help sorting out my feelings and path forward with a close guy friend. Also posted in the general "Love Forum" but I would really appreciate...

Yes, yes! to the idea that these questions STILL come up later in life...but each time you're more equipped with life experience + wisdom to be better about handling it. :-)

My question to you is...

Yes, yes! to the idea that these questions STILL come up later in life...but each time you're more equipped with life experience + wisdom to be better about handling it. :-)

My question to you is...

Hi Matt -

Reading this over, my strongest impression is that some part of you feels like "this is too good to be true! it can't last/I'm so scared of losing it." This might even be kind of a...