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He seems quite the catch, why not go for him??? ;)

I think a variety of people can fit the bill for someone. Unless you're extremely fussy. But coming by those people is very hard, and probably doesn't happen as often as we like.

Perhaps you have some underlying issues to solve first before committing to a relationship? It might be a good idea to seek some help via a therapist.

Or maybe you just haven't met the right...

Good point.

But I really thought she was comfortable with my friends. At least enough to hold a conversation. But perhaps not. Thanks for your views, they've been very interesting.

It takes time to build trust. And the first step towards building it up is having an honest chat about this.

I remember when I used to be insecure, I solved it by just being brutally honest with...

Ah, that makes sense too. When she is with me, she is REALLY with me. Maybe that's why I rather go out on my own? I'd be happier if she did mingle with other people while we were out.

Definitely...

Advice taken. Cheers.

It does just seem like another excuse to try and end things. Perhaps she's just beating round the bush to avoid the whole 'look, let's split because we aren't working'. She's being a bit cowardly and...

Oh bugger, was trying to avoid an ultimatum.

Well, I had a small chat this morning after waking up, and finding her sparked out on the sofa due to taking diazepam/Valium (apparently).

I discussed much that was said here, and her response was...

Oh and one more thing, when I do have this chat, do I mention this post at all? Obviously not show her it, but say that a bunch of anonymous people agreed with me...?

Wow, you lot have made me realise how bad this relationship is on so many levels. I can't blame the drugs entirely, because we did have good times. I'd say for the first 7 (1 only being together)...

I've learned so much since signing up to this forum the other day. Thank you.

Good luck anissa. Remember there's a load of help out there to help improve the way you deal with things. Don't give up.

Whaaat? That just seems impossible to me. Are you guys robots? You ARE aren't you.

I guess I have my parents abusive/hostile relationship to blame for my low expectations. I thought 50-50 was deemed as normal (not ideal) but evidently not!

Thanks for restoring some faith :)

Yeah, that last paragraph hits the nail on the head for me. She doesn't have many outlets at all and relies on me way too much for her source of social life.

Anyways, thanks Wakeup, appreciate...

An 80-20 split? Bah I've never had that with anyone! Maybe I am the problem after all ;)

He prioritises his career over you which in my eyes isn't that bad. He's young, needs a good start in life and is evidently trying his best to do that. But since he's so focused on that, I think it's...

Seems like a lost cause my friend :/ if I were you I'd begin to move on ASAP!

Really?? Maybe I'm wrong after all then. Hmm. Thanks for your point of view.

I just don't understand because if she goes out with her friends I am more than happy not be part of it. I understand...

Welcome my friend :)

Thanks :)

Really thought I was in the wrong when I initially posted this. Thought I should be the one to stick by her, but the majority of you are right it seems.

A little professional help...

In my situation, the trust is built, there are minimal insecurities, so I really doubt it's from a jealous point of view. And that close friend example was actually a fellow bloke, so again, no...

One last, heavy chat I think, and a week/month of determining any improvements otherwise I'll have to leave. Some how.