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In that case, I'll always be single. If I meet someone I'm attracted to who I want to be with, I can't help but put them on a pedestal. I can't prevent it, because they mean everything to me, and I...

I think in the past I have made the mistake of coming on too strong, but it is part of who I am. If I feel it, I have to say it.

If this girl had been single, I would've tried to avoid doing that...

I get your point - nobody is perfect and, as you say, in a relationship you love someone despite their flaws, as they do you.

Unrequited love - it is a form of infatuation, obsession, since you...

I've always tended to have more female friends than male friends. And I don't see why putting girls up on a pedestal is necessarily unattractive to females - it means that you care deeply about them...

Thanks - I appreciate your posts.

What got to me was that she came up and gave me the work stuff, but she didn't say "hi" or anything. I know its a small thing, but it just annoyed me so I...

Well said. It's easy to put someone up on a pedestal but you have to try and remember that they are a human being too, and nobody's perfect.

Her sister doesn't really get on with her, and she's...

Yeah, that is love, but you can still fall for someone and not have your feelings reciprocated. And if you fall for them, you'll be infatuated with them.

She did come up to me today....just to give me some work stuff, so I asked her straight out whether she was talking to me since we haven't spoken this year, and she said "yeah, I'm just manically...

I'm friends with plenty of attractive girls, which works fine - they're not just for dating. Anyway, a good relationship should be based on friendship. Had she been single, I would have just asked...

I only mentioned it because I was a bit surprised she didn't mention it - not because I want to get noticed though and not because I thought it would win her over.

It's not like I've been...

Not true...I wrote her the letter in September. I gave her the presents 3 months later, which I would have done regardless of how I feel because we were good friends, too. I didn't buy her presents...

Thanks for your reply.

I'm going to keep my distance from her, for her sake as much as mine, and because I know that if I do go up to her it'll only be painful for me. I know I'll never have a...

I never tried to steal her, because I was never under any illusion that anything would happen. Still, you can't help who you fall for.

She doesn't take lunch and we work in an open plan office,...

I hope I can move on - I'm not good at it and it's not easy seeing her every day,

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds as painful as mine. I wish you all the luck in the world!

Thanks for your replies. I'm very grateful.

I am happy for her and I've told her - it's just I can't handle hearing/knowing about stuff.

I just don't understand why, so far this year, she...

I work with a girl who is engaged. For 6 months we sat next to each other and we got on really well. I flirted with her every day, though I knew nothing could ever happen.

Ultimately though I...

As others have said, you can't make her do anything. The only thing you can do is make your feelings known, but it's her choice what she does from there.

I work with someone who is engaged, who I...