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The relationship is probably broken beyond repair because I was forced to call the police. However, I feel remorse about breaking her computer, so I have loaned her one of my two computers to use...

Interesting question. And what if the relationship consists of two women or two men? Is it okay for either partner to be physically abusive? I don't think so. Nobody should be physically abusing...

Sold the computer to the first buyer, for $50 less than I paid for it. I just wanted to get rid of it and move on. Now she tells me that she wants a Mac desktop after all, just not that one. It...

She has either lost her mind or is playing a weird game with me. Now she wants me to go window shopping for used macs in local stores. Even though she practically had a meltdown over this really nice...

I appreciate that tip. I have learned a lot about computers in the last 24 hours or so.

Say, does anybody here need a 2009 Mac desktop? Mavericks OS, 8 Gb of RAM, 1 Terabyte HD, Office 2011, CS 6,...

I'm not an expert on computers. At best, you could say that I am a skilled user, but definitely not a programmer or even somebody you would ever ask to help with a serious issue. And I know zero...

It means that I am willing to call the seller and ask some questions, but if he isn't willing to give a refund, I'm fine with that and then I am done with the whole situation. I have replaced her...

No good deed goes unpunished. When she first set up the computer at her place, she was very impressed. Eventually, she became obsessed with multiple issues and wants me to try and get my money back...

She just came over to get the computer. On the phone, she was surprised and grateful that I actually replaced her broken computer. In person, she was cold, quiet and awkward. She also went through...

She is a very private person, so the spectacle of two police cars showing up during morning rush hour to get her off my property had to be an extremely humiliating experience for her. At the time, I...

I bought her a replacement computer, for $1200. Called her a couple of times to tell her, but she didn't pick up. Left a message. I will wait a couple of weeks, and if she doesn't get back in touch,...

A mutual friend is upset with me right now. He heard that I broke her laptop, which doesn't surprise me since I threw it about fifteen feet and then it landed on my concrete driveway. It doesn't...

As I think back on this recent incident, there was a particular point where things went off the rails. That was the point where she wouldn't take no for an answer. She was unhappy with my help at...

You're getting all confused by that co-dependency stuff. Now you think that I'm the addict, but you need to make up a new addiction to explain it. The low self-esteem charge is too tricky: am I...

And how would you handle things? Sit on the couch and eat Cheetos while your girlfriend struggles with classes? And when she asks for help, tell her tough luck? There's a word for that, and it isn't...

Wakeup, I read your link. Going point by point:

Low self-esteem: No. I actually believe that I am better than most people, despite my flaws.

People-pleasing: my friends and former co-workers...

I dated an actual alcoholic for a couple of months back in 2000. We worked for the same company, though in different departments, so I saw her around but didn't know her that well. A mutual...

No, that's a bunch of crap that people have added on to the concept. Look at the word. The dependency part of co-dependency refers specifically to people who suffer from an addiction, and the co-...

I agree. Calling the police was a big deal, and the relationship may be permanently changed by that. Neither one of us is ready to talk yet, but when we do, it should be in a public place.

She is...

Some people in this thread have pushed the idea that this is a co-dependent relationship, but the word “co-dependency” has been stretched so far beyond the original idea that it has lost value. It’s...

I just need to think this over before talking to her again. Just last week, I was thinking about the relationship in a very different way. Despite the stress, things had been getting better between...

We haven't had sex anytime recently. Time of the month right now, plus work and school has had her too stressed out in recent weeks. She isn't lazy, she is taking very challenging classes at a small...

I did some bad things when I was young. Theft. Vandalism. A few fights in school. When I was 10, I pushed a friend off the monkey bars on the playground just for laughs, and he hit head and got a...

My girlfriend and I had a couple of nasty conflicts early this year, but managed to get past that and rebuild the relationship. Things got stressful again in recent months, as I lost my job while she...

What you saw wasn't cheating, because she had already expressed her intention to break up with you, which is basically the same as just breaking up with you. But I suspect that she was cheating on...