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Thanks Monty,

I know she doesn't love me, and probably never will. I'm just trying to come to terms with my feelings and how I can cope.

Fruitsss,

It's difficult to decipher what you're saying. But it seems like you're attributing things to me I didn't say. Never did I say I was trying to cheat on my wife. I said I fell in love...

I've read the link on SKS (Shining Knight Syndrome). I don't think it describes me at all.

I read the link on Limerence when you first mentioned the work, seemed like a lot of psychobabble to me....

I'll work on it :)



Let's hope some others get the message ;)



I agree, as I've mentioned above. As much as I want to (but only if she were to leave the job), I won't.

Funny thing is, I've never considered myself a romantic before, at least not like this. And I never pursued damaged women before. In fact I rarely pursued women at all. I'm basically a shy person,...

You're assuming quite a bit. I don't feel the need to fix her. I feel the need to be there for her when she needs someone, whether in good times or bad. I fell in love with her not because she was...

Perhaps. But I'm not sure there's anything wrong with being a romantic.

Some of you folks sound like you've never been in love before.

That's one thing that gets me about women. They ask questions they don't really want the answers to. If you lie you're screwed, if you tell the truth you're screwed.

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Thanks Guybrush, guessing this was meant for me, not Derek.

Again I don't think it's infatuation, I've been there before a couple times. This is different.

I will endeavor not to make a fool of...

I'm guessing you meant this for me, not for Derek?

I never had this connection with my wife. I was never in the place where I felt I couldn't be without her, not like this woman at work.

I will...

Thanks for the reply.

You may be right, but I don't think this is simply infatuation or a crush. Certainly it started out that way, but has gone WAY beyond that. The feeling may fade, but I fear...

Nicktsh,

I can't give you any advice, I'm sort of in the same boat right now. Just wanted you to know you're not alone...

Yes, Derek, she needs to do what's best for her, not for me. I never denied that. But there's no way I would WANT her to leave, there's also no way I would try to prevent it either. I'm pretty sure...

Thanks BasilandThyme.

Making a fool of myself is what I do best ;)

Perhaps if this girl leaves for another job, I can begin to try and rehabilitate my marriage, though I fear that won't happen....

Ok here goes.

I'm a 50 year old white male, married, my wife is 56.

About a year ago, I became attracted to a girl at work. She's 30. Initially, the attraction was purely physical. But soon,...