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Indi, I am not Neo. As I said before I do like you a lot when you talk seriously. However using apparently "friendly" but yet disparagingly names for people (e.g. "kid" "young man") etc. do not help...

Well its obvious that you cannot or don't want to continue this conversation based on logical arguments. So I will stop discussing with you here.

Not really circular. We were arguing as to if words can hurt or not. Now that we established that words can hurt, the question we have in hand is if the words you said are included in the subset of...

I'll let you tell me what it is. A textbook? Is it teached in psychology classes? A scientific journal? What?

All I can see is that it is listed under self-help book category and that's what I...

Sorry but it's another self-help book. You see its the orher way around, if you want to prove me wrong just show me where it has been referenced in valid scientific journals. But even then I cannot...

Let my correct that. Words *can* hurt more than blows.

Codependance no more is just another self help book. Maybe more successful but just another self help book. I cannot accept as axioms...

No Wakeup. Words hurt. More than blows.

It's up to you to give or not the beer. But don't be harsh with them is what I am saying.

Do you understand that what you wrote made somebody feel bad and worse about themselves?

Indi. When you talk seriously is much better.

It might not change the way people post but I think it may make those being treated harsh feel better.

Well you last post, sorry to tell you but it was not funny. Silly maybe. Funny no. Probably a joke a 15yo person would do.

Sarcasm will not help you either.

Not trying to save anyone. Just...

I think you misunderstood me. I never said don't give advice. Give it as a suggestion and with respect. Don't be harsh. That's all I am arguing for.

Wakeup. It's good to read psychology books and have read a few. But reading self-help books and trying to play doctor with others is not my thing. Actually I find it dangerous.

Again! She made it...

Is that supposed to be funny?

You clearly don't have the slightest idea about feelings other than lust..

I completely agree 100%. But that was not the topic. The topic was which one is faster/easier to let go and accept.

She made it extremely clear that all she needs is warmth and kind words and empathy. I guess you know what's better for her better than her??? Nice!!

Go and save somebody who asks you to save them.

Not really pretending to be a knight.

1. Kyeema has shown a lot of sympathy and support to me in this forum. It would be unfair not to support her back.
2. I don't think it's fair to be taking...

I guess that goes both ways...

And bottom line, for gods shake. The girl is going through a very difficult breakup. She now lost a relative. Her whole world is breaking apart. Only god knows how many feelings are trapped inside...

No. Its called sympathy and empathy.

What you propose however is called patronizing. People know they are wrong. Know what they have to do. Sometimes they don't know *how* to do it. When they come...

I don't know about the others but I did use to come to conciousl talk about my ex and share my pain.

Indeed there are people that need "harsh" advices and people who really don't want to take any...

Perhaps us'all should create a forum with people who are similar to us and let y'all "strong" people out. I really cannot see what kind of satisfaction does it give you to go around playing strong...

Thanks everyone for their advice, help, sympathy and support.

Most of the people are great in the forum. Unfortunately there are some who like to make fun of or make jokes about other peoples...