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Being a challenge most likely means that she wants a guy who isn't a clingy pushover. Don't call her all the time, don't kiss her ass, etc.

I'm on medicine because I have physically manifested anxiety symptoms.

Ok, so everyone keeps suggesting I do therapy... what exactly would I tell a therapist? I can't hand him/her all the posts from this thread and expect him/her to read all that stuff..

surfhb: I am...

I really don't understand what I'm supposed to do. I keep trying and trying things and while I'm talking to a new girl or out doing something I enjoy I'm happy and fine. Once I get rejected though it...

smackie9: Well, I'll do that every now and then and see what seems to "work". Let me ask though, how well did you know the guy that gave you that compliment? Do you recommend doing it to women I'm...

Rollingwithlife: oh, yeah, I did overlook that. That makes sense that different people have different views on things like attracting women. Cherry picked and claim to have tried? I've followed every...

carl1222: Ah, I see! So if you compliment you'll see what they think of you?

smackie9: Well, I agree with you, but once you say "sexy" that is no longer a non-sexual comment. What about "hey those...

Ok, well I actually *have* been trying things.
- Yesterday I set up an eHarmony thing since it is the free communication weekend. I set it to a 200 mile radius and ZERO matches.
- Yesterday I went...

Would it then reason to say if you are attractive to her in the first place it doesn't matter if you compliment her or not?

Ugh, I don't know. I think I'm at the point now where I don't even feel...

Such a compliment won't actually create attraction though, right?

Doesn't complimenting a girl on a clothing item make them think you're gay or something? Those are the kind of comments I hear women give each other all the time.

1) I do need to get a book or something because I don't have any successful buddies that I know well enough to ask and I don't have any female friends close enough to even entertain the idea of...

I was just asking why discussing the subject makes me insecure, which you did not answer.

No, people don't sense me being an asshole because I'm usually not. I am actually a nice guy in real life...

How am I insecure again?

Yes, screw facebook. For some reason I was under the [false] assumption that Facebook would not freak them out as much and would be a more casual way to make them...

Pray tell searock, what do you think men should be crying over that I did not cover? I don't know of any man who isn't a total wuss and is respected by other people that cries about things other than...

It makes me angry to sit there, look someone in the eye and tell them that I've got problems I should be able to deal with myself, that or telling them something as humiliating as being completely...

"These are all symptoms. Why do these symptoms demonstrate themselves though? There is an underlying cause that makes you feel/behave this way. This is the root of your problems and not the fact you...

I don't think a therapist is going to be able to help because all they can do is try to convince me my problem isn't as bad as I thought. I know because I've been before a few years ago about other...

Cut off contact with her. You shouldn't have helped her cheat on her husband. That's an asshole thing to do.

Are you serious? You told your wife it is OK to go around screwing other dudes because you don't want to lose her or the kids? You don't want to break up the family because of that? What are your...

searock: I can't sit there in front of a therapist and bitch about my life. It's bad enough to have all these problems but it would be even worse to sit there and tell someone I'm too much of a pussy...

I don't do anything with my friends because they're situational friends. We play sports together or see each other at the gym (not anymore) but we don't have any common interests outside of that. I...

She might have been if I hadn't facebook stalked her damn number and creeped her out.

I don't have time just to go around trying new things in the name of "meeting people". I've gone and done...

surfhb: because I want to apologize for being a douchebag and never talk to her again?

searock: Yes I do, I creeped her out and when she didn't respond I pitched a baby fit with those last two messages and deleted her on facebook. If I hadn't said anything after the initial creep...