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And there you are at it again. Why does age even come into a factor? This is ridiculous. I have been debating your ARGUMENTS up until your apparent need to repeatedly...

I fail to see how I can sustain this argument if people are going to continually play the "Im older than you" "I am well read" cards as if anyone else YOUNGER must be
A) Dumber
B) False...

I think she meant what she said, that is, she's probably got her family issues to deal with.

And when you say "if I was her priority, she wouldn't be thinking about this." Well, firstly, her...

The question asked "Can men and women just be friends?"

Your answer is only somewhat valid if the OP defined friendship as the type you are describing (showing up and being there for someone at...

All I have to say is that you can't apply the same formula to everyone.

Most people would probably cut their nails when they get long, but not everyone. Same same.

Men and women can definitely be "just friends". I am an example and many of my friends are too.

I am female and with the exception of one girl, all my closest friends are male that I - in NO way -...

No, actually you are disagreeing with what Basil originally said & agreeing what I said in my first post.

For Christs sake, stick to an argument not to your friend.

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Did you even read the rest of my post or do you go around taking snippets of what people say so you can misrepresent their views?

I clearly stated that OP should be 100% ready for him to not...

Hey no worries about it - we're all blind when we're in the situation but we all become wise when giving advice to others =P

I'd say give the girl a shot. Casually tell her you & your ex broke up...

I think you were right not to see him - so good on you :)

However, from reading that (and also the fact that this has been on your mind enough to post it here) suggests that you see him as a bit...

No, I would be a fool to think I know you enough to judge you (negatively).
I'll give you my best guess of this situation. Three things could either be happening:

A) She never had a crush on...

Well, yes I think you should end the relationship with your current girlfriend as soon as possible if you dont see it going anywhere.

(I personally dont believe in long distance relationships).
...

In that case, if he's STILL being flirtatious (and yes I'd construe those things as flirtatious) I would either:

A) Cut complete contact with him (doubt you want to do that & understandably.....

Ask yourself these questions:

> Do YOU want to see him?

>> If no, don't.

>>If yes, what do YOU want to do when you see him?

>>>If you want to catch up for a chat, then make the setting...

I hope you realize that any girl who respects herself, would NEVER go for a boy who drops his girlfriend for her.

It says a lot about him, and how he would treat HER in the future.

If you're...

You shouldn't beat yourself up about saying those things. His actions led to your words. It wasn't as if you're abusive out of the blue.

This sounds like the ending to my relationship three weeks...

I'd lay off it, maybe offer to meet his wife?

Look up the TIME article by Andrea Sachs called "Why we have Affairs - And why not to tell"
And if you don't.. the line you should get out of it is:

Honesty is great, but it's an abstract moral...

I HAVE to disagree with all the posts here about "telling her".

It wasn't until recently that I came across this view and I think it's changed my own. If you cheat on someone, and you genuinely...

If she's in her 20s, she would have been in love with him since she was around 6 years old? I dont think so...I am thinking more 30-40s.

Anyway, that's irrelevant....

I agree she should go...

Ohhh, why does this remind me of My Best Friends Wedding aha! Both too shy to admit their love - until its too late!

Well, if I were you, I'd confess my love to him and see if he feels the same...

It has to be honest but that doesn't mean it has to be brutal.
Whether it is brutal for HER is beyond your control.

Gently tell her that you two are not compatible (I assume this is the reason?)....

Look, talk is cheap.

If he loves you, it will be reflected in his actions.
Does he make sure you get home safely at night? Does he remember little things about you? Does he give more than he...

I literally ~just~ went through this as I also recently broke up.

I know this is no reassurance, but time WILL heal your wounds. Don't be afraid to cry/mourn until you are too tired to do so. I...

You're probably right. I think I realized he didn't love me as much as I loved him - but it's so hard to see him in a bad light.

Don't worry, I would never try to get back with him / want to get...