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Now we're name calling?

I never said I was right in how I handled it.

I agree I sometimes don't communicate correctly my perspective on things.
What are you specifically criticizing me of not communicating correctly?

I lied to my gf about the communication I had...

EXCUSE ME?!

Selfish? I'm not getting where I was ever selfish.
You miss the part she cheated on me in January and I eventually forgave her?
She instigated contact every time with me a month...

If you really read my story...and word gets out to her that I have a "for sale" sign in my front yard, will that make much difference to her? I wasn't just talk, I actually meant it and put it into...

As hard as that is to read, you're not the first one to tell me that. I try to minimize confrontation in my life, and I attempted to with my ex...especially knowing what would have happened if I...

She was over at my place a few days after the breakup, picking up some of her stuff. We talked for a bit, then she started crying, hugging me, and saying "why did you do this to us?". She loved me...

Is "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" just a cute phrase, or is there something to it?

I'm not a robot, I wish there was a switch I could turn off.

She's only been in my city for a few months. The only people she knows are brand new work relationships. She's stated several times that's she's lonely, and has no one to support her during this...

@searock...
Ha...you're trying hard to turn me into a real a-hole.

I honored every request she gave me over the month to not contact.
She instigated every conversation with "I miss you, love...

I admit I handled it wrong in lying, but it wasn't for something malicious...it was to protect her and our relationship from my crazy ex, not push her away. Didn't want to bring that drama into our...

I haven't talked to her since her last contact to me, 2 weeks ago. Have I been tempted? YES...but what would I even say after how undeservingly hostil and cold she was...then backed it up again last...

I am pretty good friends with her previous roomate. Jenn talked to her about her and I's relationship quite a bit. She talked to me several times this past week about everything, got my perspective...

I know...I'm a terrible person.

@smackie9...
I agree to a point, I did bring some baggage into the relationship. I didn't want any added drama to Jenn and I's relationship and ultimately push her away. That's the justification I...

@NSInfinity...

It wasn't that I was hesitant. I've been preparing my house to sell for a while now and didn't want to move all her stuff in while trying to go through the process of showing the...

An example of "positive" message: The week before I went to her place, I had just come back from dinner when she text me "I just picked up a tiramisu, reminded me of you" (That's my favorite...

@searock:
Since the breakup a little over a month ago, she continued to tell me she loved me, missed me...but she just can't trust me because of what happened 7 months ago. She was sending mixed...

@searock:
"Yet you kept contacting her. No wonder she "became very cold to you."
Actually, I always respected her request and never would instigate contact.
SHE would contact me...with the "I miss...

@HeartIsAching...

The week before I went to her place and she sent me those last messages, she was telling me she missed me and was thinking about me. I figured she was still trying to work...

@steviej

I get the "don't look weak". I've never been hurt like this, it's brought me to my knees...mostly because a lot of this was my doing, taking her and I's relationship for granted. I had...

It's been hard to be confident after our last communication. It was VERY out of character for her to say those things to me, so I just stopped communicating. I would assume most guys would just...

I was DEFINITELY committed to her, I just came into the relationship with baggage. The right thing to do was get rid of the baggage first, but I didn't want to push her away and lose her. I didn't...

@ basilandthyme
I put all of Kristy's stuff into storage 8 months ago, and I haven't talked to her since.


I get the move in thing...it was boneheaded, and I realize that now. I was too focused...

I apologize for the lengthy note. I added a lot of details to better understand my situation.

My ex (we’ll call her Jenn) and I dated for a 1 year until a month ago, when she broke things off. I...