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Hello Geek2021
Reading this as a total outsider i would have to say that I 100% agree with your husband.
You say you hadn't seen this guy in a long time and then all of a sudden you sound...

It sounds as though she isn't sure about what she really wants. As you are obviously a nice person it is hard to 'leave you'. Agree that you need to talk with her and get it out in the open. It's...

That is sad. Have you got a good friend you can talk to and confide in? At the moment, you need to look after you and not make any decisions about anything. Give yourself some time so that you can...

Your dad does need a wake up call. He is in danger of losing everything and obviously has no idea. It's tough for you being caught in the middle and it's only natural that you are trying to protect...

You must at least feel some relief now that you don't have the stress of wondering what to do. It seems that she really did have a boyfriend, you did the right thing. You will get over her in time.

This is what you wrote in a previous post, so does she have a boyfriend or do you think she has a boyfriend or are you not sure? I must admit I would be changing my advice about asking her out if she...

He is in fact cheating and while he can deny it forever it doesn't change the fact. He is now acting like a spoilt brat because you have taken away his toys. He is obviously not willing to listen to...

It is tough to know that the answer might be 'no' and then it is over however you aren't actually achieving anything other than tormenting yourself like this.

It really sounds like she just doesn't want to let you go but doesn't want you to have anyone else either by keeping you dangling.

Either ask her out or cut all ties, move on and go out with...

it sounds as though everything is pointing at the fact that she isn't as invested in the relationship as you are.
There may be nothing wrong but no spark there either, for her. She is calling it...

I find it a bit strange that a school breeds"whore type girls". If you are talking about marriage as I guess you are if you are getting the sex after marriage speech maybe it is time you proposed....

You have every right to talk about this with him. Surely you want to have a relationship where you can talk about things together, come to mutual decisions and respect one another. It sounds as...

The fact that you have a good friendship will mean that you can have a great time.Remember that you are there for your friend's wedding so don't do anything that may dampen the atmosphere.
Be your...

If you are feeling like this now it is definitely time to end the relationship. All of those little things that annoy you will only grow over time and if it regarding the treatment of other people,...

You know the saying"love is blind" - It seems that maybe you did miss some of the tell tale signs that the relationship was not going as well as you thought it was.

Sadly it seems that it really is over. She has really made it quite clear.
Obviously uni is very important to you right now (being your final year) so just focus on what you need to do there....

It sounds as though he has enough to deal with just getting himself back on track and the added weight of a family is just too much at the moment. If he is going to get better, this may be something...

All the signs of suspicious behavior are there particularly deleting call logs and texts.

It's not a good place to be at but as you said, you have been married for 17 years so this is a person you...

Definitely agree, just ask her out and end the speculation and the what if's. She obviously enjoys your company from the way you have described things so it shouldn't be too big a deal. She could be...

The last comment you made when she said she could get someone else and would just lose weight to do it, is quite a telling statement. She is almost challenging you to say you will leave and then she...

Don't blame yourself, if your relationship was always light hearted that's the way you would normally expect to react, it's only on reflection that you can see that she really needed a serious talk...

It's pretty hard to communicate with a person who will not communicate. Until he is willing to do that or at least have a civil conversation you are in a tough place. Could it be that he is...

Good on you for doing what you can to move on with your life. You used the term "getting over him" but that is something that may not really come until much, much later. Moving on is probably a...

What about what you want? The plan as it stands seems to focus on what he wants. If you were happy with that maybe you wouldn't have come here for advice. If you have any niggling doubts at all,...

He seems to hold an awful lot of power in this relationship and you are just going along with it. Your life doesn't depend on this man. Concentrate on yourself for a while, build up your won self...