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Hi Alban, change comes from acceptance (including the laziness).

It feels to me like you are hard on yourself all the time - which is hugely energy draining (consider that you aren't lazy, just...

If he thinks it's your job to entertain him and make his life interesting I think you need to have a serious talk to him.

If you think you need to entertain him and keep him interested I think you...

It is about meeting your needs - esp. ones not met in childhood. Perhaps being paid attention to, acknowledged for your work and successes and so on.

Imagine doing for yourself what you want him...

Think about what initially attracts you and whether this is what works long-term.

Do you get to know people through social events or doing things of common interest. Social events as a way of...

I've always been flattered if a girl asked me out or showed interest. Then I can make a decision. If they don't respect my decision (whether yes or no) then I have a problem.

I guess it is hard to judge from text. So much depends on tone of voice and such.

I'm worried by him saying that you broke his heart when he didn't say anything. If you do decide to pursue a...

Some people engage when physically present but not so much via media. This can be a hassle if you get together with them - you can feel like you don't exist because they don't text and so on. It is...

As a guy (and I think for most guys from what I can gather) looks are for looking at. A relationship is based on far more - looks don't matter nearly as much as the looking would seem to imply.

A...

You would need to talk about what happens after. Who decides when to end - you or him? Are you going to want to get together with him after - what will you do if you want to or don't want to. What...

Hi Crystee,

Take a bit of time to think about what you are motivated to do. Is there a way to link getting your homework done to what does motivate you? eg if I get it done I can go out/ring a...

Hi Technix, To resolve the past means getting our needs met and expressing our feelings fully (if you have supportive friends they can help a lot. If not you need to find a place that is safe for...

Is any of this helping you BlackFlux?

She'll soon be 18 - licensed to drive, able to join an army and shoot people . . .

I think you need to accept she may like you for a while and then drop you. How would you feel about this? The...

It sounds like you both have a lot going on - and moving in together is a big thing too. Can you talk about how to support each other and then maybe worry about the relationship when the other stuff...

Hi JYH,

If you look at the people who fall in love (and not just in lust) it is not to do with achievement but vulnerability. You may want to do things differently for your own sake but it may...

Hi Nybeauty02,

What stood out for me was this para, "
I called him back and said maybe we could work it out (which he originally said he wanted to do). He seemed relieved, and I said as long as...

For me it's not an issue.

It sounds like he is not willing to accommodate your needs or make compromises. It sounds like a bad situation from what you have said here.

How many times is normal? No idea. I think the answer is: how many times you both find it delightful. If he isn't willing to care for you I think you need to look at being in a relationship with...

I think many people keep acting the same as they get older (they seem to stick with their basic attitudes from adolescence on). Reading what you said my thought was that I hope you can find ways to...

It sounds like you have made some very tough and very responsible decisions. It can work if you find ways to talk to each other and work out a lifestyle that gives you both some measure of what you...

It's an awful experience you are going through. It sounds like he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship with you. I hope you are finding ways to be kind to yourself and have friends you...

Hi Converging, Anti-depressants have saved my partner's life more than once. Please consider them. They usually work best if you do talk therapy at the same time.

It sounds like you have had...

It could be helpful to get in touch with your anger and find a way to express it that doesn't damage you, others or the furniture.

Hi Kitty, I wonder if you can get back in touch with your desires - knowing when you are hungry and what food you want. This way you will find what foods are good for you and you'll feel healthy. ...