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true - I wanted views from men and women and went about it the wrong way, I understand. thanks for calling me ridiculous. leaving is harder than you think, for many, many reasons

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true, very true. it all sounds so ridiculous now. that was 2 years ago, and I am supposed to move past that. but the sore dick 4 days after masturbating sounds a bit much - again, another wild...

thank you - my thoughts exactly. I was quiet after he told me that, and tried to stay busy all day while I considered what he said. when he asked me for the 2nd time what was wrong, I calmly told...

no, I haven't seen it - I wondered if he has some kind of disease or warts or something and doesn't want me to see it. usually on his first day home after being gone all week he's all over me. but...

my hubby travels out of town a lot. sometimes he goes to sketchy bars and has been known to go to stripper bars and appears he has cheated but that was 2 years ago so i'm trying not to be...

what would you think if your husband tells you on Sunday that his dick is still sore because he was too rough jacking off in his hotel room Wednesday?

He's been known to cheat and go to stripper...

Hi,
what would you think of your woman (who travels a lot) tells you on Sunday that her pussy is still sore because she rubbed off too hard in her hotel room Wednesday night? BTW she was out late...

My advice is to GET RID OF HIM. He will never, ever change and you'll go crazy knowing he's spying on your every move, your every conversation, your everything. Nothing but trouble ahead so please...

hey there WakeUp I've been thinking about what you said, and I read the book you suggested and am feeling much better about things - I thought it was someone else who suggested so I just wanted to...

I have been reading the book you suggested smackie9, along with Women who Love Too Much. It's helpful literature, and I am still going to my therapist once a week starting back again next week. He...

my heart goes out to you bcgirl - I used to date a guy who ended up pretty messed up on drugs, and it sucked when he would get so far out there all he cared about was himself and his drugs. I...

both you and smackie9 are right. I tried posting an answer to you earlier wakeup but it didn't go thru apparently because I don't see it now. The book just came in today - I already picked it up and...

I can't say I really want to CHANGE him, because this behavior is NEW. In our 13 years together he has never went to a stripper bar (that I'm aware of). so yes, I want him to stop going; it's wrong,...

BC Girl, regarding what you said the other day...damn "hope" is getting old, I know what you mean! I can't keep "HOPING" he won't go back, I need to know he won't continue to go. I'm still obsessing...

yes, bc girl you are correct about my childhood. I hate the fact that apparently alot of who I am, who I've become, is so text book for children of alcoholics, and for years I kept trying to tell...

I haven't mentioned alanon yet, but tomorrow is my second session. I'm sure this won't come as a surprise that my dad was a vodka alcoholic too, except he was really mean and did some bad things. so...

thanks Lord Darkshire! It does seem everyone has really put an effort into this and I really value everyone's input. I know that I, and I alone, am responsible for the choices I make and am...

That's the EXACT same book my counselor suggested.

Wow - I LOVE everyone's response, I really appreciate your opinions. Smackie9 you hit the nail on the head...he blames everyone for his problems, he gets defensive, short tempered and self entitled....

not sure i'm replying in the right spot, but i did reply. it's good talking with you Wakeup!

I started counseling yesterday, to get a second opinion. She also said I was co-dependent. Last month I decided upon a 6 month plan, so I don't make any rash decisions since I have my kid to consider...

you know, that's what i'm thinking. he's been a functioning alcoholic the whole time I've known him, and many years before that and it doesn't really bother me a lot. he was supposed to be going out...

thanks for your advice, it's very much appreciated.

thanks Fruitsss, you make a good point

that's what I think too, I guess I just need somebody else's opinion. i appreciate your time and your thoughts.