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Can anyone please help?

I'm very attractive.

This is a recent problem, having just started maybe a year ago. Guys ask me out, or I go on dates with them, and then they don't call me again. They seem interested in me, attracted to me, but they...

Well… most people would tell you that with narcs you should just ignore them…

But in my case, I gave him hell. I said loads of things to him, but the overriding message was that I thought he was...

Typical narc.

After I broke up with my ex, two weeks later he said some terrible stuff to me which made me feel like a used tissue. I was distraught for about two weeks, until I read all this...

She definitely sounds like a narc - they usually come across as completely empathic, and definitely project during the "devaluing stage".

I know this is going to sound strange, but you have to...

Dude, did you ever look into narcissists? I'm serious - read up on it. You're displaying classic traits of someone who was "discarded" by a narc.

Girl… I know this is going to sound harsh and not what you want but… You are a stalker / harassment magnet. You define yourself by how nice you are, and that is a sure fire way of attracting weirdos...

THat has actually been my experience - the more I ignore him, the worse it gets. Is that an established trend? Do you know if there is any literature I can read about this?

Thanks for your...

How are you doing these days? <3



Seriously… why don't you report him?

I posted on here a few months ago about a "not relationship" that was rapidly going sour, and after I broke up with him I posted a few times about how he kept persisting with me. He would always...

Weird topic title, I know, but it will make sense by the end :P

I've been working on building my self esteem through self-acceptance. I used to try hard to impress and "win" people, and have...

Well, I brought it up yesterday (that I was thinking of moving), and she looked upset. We're actually getting on well, but I get the sense that she wants more from me than I am prepared to give, and...

I've posted a few times lately about establishing personal boundaries. This question is related to boundaries in friendships.

I'm currently visiting the States, staying with a friend who I...

Why do you think that?

Sorry for the late reply to this. I read the messages at the time but I caught a flight a few hours later and have been travelling since. Just wanted to say thank you both - what you wrote touched...

I broke up with my "not ex" six weeks ago. It's been one of the worst breakups I've had - heart totally smashed, him trying to get back with me, not obeying NC, then me suddenly turning against him...

Aww man, I'm really sorry to hear that you're still hurting.

I remember your story well. Have you every researched anything into narcissists? Your ex could be one. Reading about them made me...

You're completely right. Low self esteem is at the root of all this, and that's what I need to work on. Apparently the way the human mind works is that when you start demanding more, you start...

Thanks ladies <3

Out of interest, what do you think of men withdrawing after beginning a sexual relationship? Orange flag?

Basil, Thanks for the deal breakers list! THat's a good starting...

Hatethis, what kind of detailed questions should I ask? I know from now on I'm going to make sure they're out of a relationship at least 6 months, but any other suggestions?

Basil, When something...

I don't fall for people very often, but when I do, I fall fast and hard. I get blinded, and ignore massive red flags. I just had my heart completely smashed, and I cannot put myself through this...

Yeah…. this has been my approach for the last few years. Hasn't worked out so well for me!

I've posted here before about a pattern that I have, which is getting involved with men who treat me pretty casually (make no effort), then I break up with them and they beg me to get back with them...

I understand that this goes against what you're comfortable with, but honestly, what's easier? Meeting someone you really like, or opening your mind? It's not like she f*cked a horse. A threesome...