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Agreed, thinking back I think I've always been like that. Putting it like that is actually helpful as it helps me to see it as it really is: slightly pathetic.



Yes, I alluded to it in my...

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Yeah I mean financially she has a job now but I did have to support her for 2 years. Well, I didn't have to, I chose to. So that part is much improved.

She hates the job though because...

So my girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years.

Despite being in our thirties, this is in fact both of our first proper relationship because we both have had anxiety issues which have held...

Sorry hun, too complex to plough through and in view of what has happened to you I feel like the opinions of more random strangers on a forum in addition to that of people in your life, is just going...

Agree with the others above. Whatever friendship you had with him is over. These things happen and people like to hold onto the idea that they can preserve aspects of the friendship/relationship but...

Agree with most other people, he's just being thick and maybe doesn't realise the clash or the importance of being there. Tell him you are worried that you want him there for the birth and/or in the...

^good for you! So great to see someone actually make a proactive effort and report back how it goes…we're all rooting for you Amtc, stay strong and stick with it!

edit: although…be wary of doing...

A couple of things leapt off the page for me.

Firstly, your quest to break up in a sensible way, whilst admirable, might have actually been an unconscious coping technique. In trying to "control"...

Well I know you said you are shy, but send him a flirty text and if it doesn't get you anywhere it's not meant to be.

Wakeup 's post about personal boundaries is very important, the concept of boundaries is something I have found very important in trying to improve some of my own tendencies. It takes work and you...

I am going to be blunt, for a change ;)

It seems to me that in a couple of your comments in this thread you imply you understand the sensible advice you are being given, but in reality it is only...

I agree with the guys above.

Don't live in regret, just talk to him and see if he's open to a date.

If he chooses ancient dogma instead then you would be better off without him anyway.

Forget about him and ask yourself why you participate in this little drama.

What is it that you get out of it that keeps you locked in what you know is an unhealthy cycle? Is it that you just...

It's not hard to understand at all. He liked you. He doesn't spend ever second of every day obsessing about text messages because he has a life. If you like him, go on a date and see where things...

Just contact him and tell him you felt a little spark but got all nervous and wondered if he'd like to try again. It's not rocket science, just ask him.

Stop mothering men, then you won't have to deal with little boys.

Don't do the "no contact" thing as a means of getting him back. The last thing you need is more mind games like that.

Do "no contact" because it is the right thing to do, for you, and really mean...

Well you sound slightly nuts, so maybe that's why.

Leave. Go somewhere safe where there are people who can protect you when he kicks off.

Then go through a period of therapy to work out how you can avoid accidentally repeating the pattern with the...

She thinks you had a girl braid your hair and your not saying who did it confirmed that to her. Your approach to not telling her made her feel that she can't trust you and that you are hiding things....

She has already called you needy so you are in trouble here buddy. If she's dealing with somebody who is half dead one minute, then get's some pointless text about the weather just to keep...

This kind of passive attitude to why things aren't working baffles me.

If you want results you have to do things! Talk to him, communicate, research a lot, try new things, try to be more tactile...

What are you talking about?

This guy does not want contact with you. Respect that. You are married. Respect that too.

You can't go through life fixating on some need to neatly wrap your...

You are over analysing a natural act because you have not lost your virginity and you are building it up into a big drama in your head. I know because I did the same thing.

Stop worrying about...

This is an emotional maturity thing.

You need to stop avoiding the difficult emotions of ending a relationship that isn't working, and face them head on. Yes, the break up will hurt a lot and be...