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I feel sorry for you for being in such a position. I was pressurized into giving a guy a blowjob when I was younger and I did it to just to please him. I regretted it later because he was not the...

Great to hear that things are working out :)

She may have a low self-esteem. Constantly remind her that she is beautiful in your eyes, not for how she looks but for her strength and how she took care of you during your chemo. Take her out...

His family doesn't consider you to be important. It's best to dump his whole family.

I have been on the other side. I have a bf who cannot move with me due to his ill parents and threatens to break up with me if I move.
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She may be family-oriented too but perhaps she wants to achieve a certain career and lifestyle for her future family and she really needs to move as a stepping stone for what she envisions for the...

Great philosophy! I guess the heart does have a way of revealing the truth. Hope to find Mr. Right at Stanford ;). Too bad my bf is not secure about himself. In my eyes, I think he has a great...

You were supposed to watch a movie with her last night but you were stuck at work. This makes you appear as unreliable in her mind. Due to this incident, she is now scared that you would leave her...

You are fantasizing what it could be like but not accepting the reality. See him for what he his and the implication of his fear / immobility on your life. Don't waste your time. Just because you...

Glad you pointed this out. I wasn't aware that emotional isolation from friends is a form of control. No wonder I felt strange and not as happy as I used to be. Thanks for affirming this.

If he really loves you, fear should not stop him from taking steps to introduce you to his family as a potential partner. He needs to grow up and learn to address your feelings and needs by taking...

Some updates. Managed to discuss the PD position with my bf and discovered that he actually didn't mind me going. He just didn't like it that I was making such an important decision on my...

He's only keeping it open by saying "life would bring us together again". You've only been together for a month in the same city. Growing into a relationship takes time. The initial stage of...

IndiReloaded, thanks for tips and support.

You should not love her because she loves you. You should love her character and how she carries herself. Try asking her if she is angry at some issue and needs some space to think. Maybe she is...

It's clear he's not that interested in you.... you're not number one on his list... why make him so important in your life?

Doesn't seem like both you are compatible. You should date first to evaluate your compatibility with her before even thinking about a relationship. Seems like you are forcing a relationship when...

Agree with Fruitsss completely.

I think his failure in a subject last year shook his confidence. His failure has shaken his confidence in other aspects of his life as well - including his love life. If you really love him,...

How long have you known each other and what are the main differences between both of you that cause so many problems in the relationship?

Thanks for your evaluation of the probability of getting a postdoc at Stanford and the probability of finding a compatible partner. Indeed, some career opportunities are more rare than a marriage...

Maybe he fears that I may find someone better than him when I do a postdoc at Stanford. He is established in his career at Penn State but compared to how he was at my age, I'm doing much better. ...

Exactly! His family is very well off so he does not need me to work hard to earn money to support our children in the future. He sees my ambition as unnecessary.

IndiReloaded, thanks for your insight. Really helps knowing that a postdoc at Stanford would be valuable for a faculty position in the future. My BF, who is 7 years older, has already established...

Thanks for your opinion, steviej. You broke it down so clearly.

I am a talented, healthy and gorgeous scientist. He's a wonderful guy and loves me a lot. He has also achieved far more than...