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Seems like a lot of drama to me. Unless he was the world's most incredible catch, I can't see it being worth the torment long term, especially if you were going to have to spend any decent amount of...

I don't know, it's more important to some people than others. Sounds like your guy ticks all the boxes in the other departments, you're just struggling with this one aspect of his personality. So...

I went through something similar years ago, although we had no kids.

The short answer is nothing will get better or clearer until you leave him. For good. Stop hanging all this on what he...

You know what, if there wasn't the previous issue with the emotional affair, I'd say you're being silly. I'm married and have male friends and colleagues that sometimes I hang out with and maybe...

I was in your situation. Actually it's how I ended up on this forum initially.

There has to be a point when you realize that you are worth more than that. Love shouldn't hurt. Do you like...

My ex husband cheated on me multiple times until I finally got my sh*t together and left him. I was young so it was hard.

For a long time I wished bad things for him for treating me so awfully...

Well, I'm a divorced (remarried) woman. After my first marriage, I felt a lot like your original post, but from a woman's point of view. Also, I was the breadwinner.
Why get married, when a man...

I think, bottom line is.....men are going to gravitate towards you more when it seems like you've got it together and are comfortable in your own skin. Every guy I've talked to told me there's...

Sigh. Wow. Was that so necessary? Maybe I should explain something to you that YOU are not understanding: people fake marriage documents in courts and churches, and do things under the table. ...

Clearly not.

Everybody has boundaries guy, and you just seem to like shoving your way through them regardless of how much they protest.

It goes a lot further than you think, trust me. The point is that you'll never be truly happy with another person until you are happy with yourself FIRST. That is a fact. No one can be another...

Oh dear, this is a tricky one. The bottom line, is you aren't going to make everyone happy. It would be easy to say "tell your parents to mind their own business", but you live in their home.
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Wow, and you say you're "madly in love"?!? Damn. She sounds like a whiny ass princess that browbeats the hell out of you. I am married, in my early 30's, and would never treat my husband the way...

So, um......you have feelings for her. That's great. What are you DOING about it? Giving the dirty eyeball to a guy that talks to her a lot doesn't count.

Yes, like searock says....this has nothign to do with how 'women' think.

Let's keep it simple. You said she's a really nice person.....deep down. Which tells me that on the surface she's all...

Let's be fair, you also kind of treated this guy like a second thought. You didn't want him for anything more than to fill in a hole in your life, and you've openly acknowledged that in your post. ...

I agree with all the above posts, and I have to add you seem to be insulted at a level way above normal that this girl doesn't want to talk to you. When she sends an email like that telling you that...

Um, no. Please point out the part where you said you got married IN INDIA. All you said is that "We are officially married in the Indian church and court system there." Which means you could've...

Ok well I see two issues here. First of all, when the guy is offering to share the bill, your friend keeps offering to pay the whole thing. Why? Secondly, when she offers to pay his share he...

My other thought is that you've only been together 4 months and you don't see each other that often and live really far away from one another......how serious is the relationship really? Did you...

I am thankful I make my own work schedule, because it enabled me to go have coffee with some old high school friends this morning instead of going straight to work. :)

Wait.....just checking if I read this right....did you marry him in person or over the internet??? I'm pretty sure that's not legit. If you tried to apply for him to come to the US I don't think...

Ok well there's a good chance you are overreacting....you DID move in together awfully quickly. He may be making the right decision in realizing that it was too soon. I think the poor guy needs...

Yes, him not telling his wife is pretty sketchy. My husband goes out with people for lunch and cocktails and stuff with lots of people that includes women, especially as part of his job, but he...

Well I'm a 'down-to-earth atheist' that hopes you won't mind a bit of my input?

Honestly you are so young. Who you are as a person right now will change a lot over the next ten years, I promise...