Originally Posted by
Hazelnutfrappe1
Wakeup,
Yes that is correct. It's twice now and in the similar situation.
I've done the right thing and said goodbye to Jack I think.. I have no idea why he started acting this way again. Maybe he likes to steal someone he can't have..?
You haven't done the "right thing." The right thing would have not to been talking to Jack at all while you're in other committed relationship(s)... You've been having an emotional affair with jack during TWO committed relationships now.
I am going to focus on myself now and figure things out.
What needs to be figured out? You need to stop talking to this idiot you keep allowing you to emotionally engage you with BULLSHIT words and attention and speak to the men in your life who you aren't getting enough attention from. As long as you keep entertaining Jack, any man will be competing for your emotional attention. That really sucks.
I'll try harder on my marriage and have better commutation with my husband mentally and physically.
I think we are lacking of both and it might work out..
It will have a much better chance if you stop making your husband compete for you emotionally. YOu need cold turkey withdrawl from jack and his BS. You need to block and delete him so you're not tempted by your addiction to getting words of attention from him.
I know that I should be alone and think about myself, I'd do that if I was not married but since I married my husband after finding out his affair, I think I should get more counseling sessions and read some books, try to re-build the trust I lost before I decide to divorce him.
That's up to you whether you stay with your husband or not but don't leave him for Jack. Jack is just fluff who keeps you hooked on his pre-marital emotional cheating. Hes not a good man. A good man wouldn't talk to you the way hes been doing knowing that you are in a relationship.... and him in one himself.
He is willing to do anything to make it up to me.
Then you should count yourself lucky that you have time to figure out yourself.
Good luck.
... and **** Jack and the horse he rides in on.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion