Hi everyone, thanks in advance to anyone who offers advice.
I have been dating my BF for a year. I think we have a wonderful relationship in so many ways. We laugh A LOT (often to tears) we have great conversations, I think we are compatible intellectually and our sex is frequent and great. The problem is he is in the airforce and will be posted somewhere else in about 6 months or so. This posting puts pressure on us to determine what we are doing. I want to settle down and don't want to hang around just to be hurt and say good bye in 6 months but I think I have fallen a little in love already.
We've talked about it where things were headed before and he said we needed to let things develop naturally before forcing anything. This made sense but it's been a year and I'd like to know if we have a chance or not.
He is over 45 and never married and never lived with anyone. He is terrified of making a big commitment and losing his freedom (growing up, I guess).
When we are together (weekends) we get along so well. we just got back from a week in Hawaii and I think that's why I am so upset. I felt really close to him on our holiday and I don't think I can take the insecurity about this ending anymore.
I 'd like to know from a man's perspective if anyone thinks I have a chance of getting this guy to step up. He told me that he knows that what we have is great and worth fighting for but he doesn't feel brave enough to take the next step just to fail and get more hurt later. I know he cares and he's a good guy. I feel so sad to let him go.