He went to Vegas for the weekend....

[Zinnia69]

I haven't been dating this guy for very long, about a month and a half. We have been intimate. He is very kind and is as into me as I am into him. He holds the door for me, and texts me every day. We have not discussed the status of our relationship. I suggested that we agree to tell the other if we start seeing or talking to someone else and he agreed. I don't feel I can ask for any more than that at this point since everything is still developing. He barely texted me on Wednesday until after 9pm. Then on Thursday he didn't text much but while I'm texting him he tells me he is at the airport on his way to Vegas with a guy friend of his. He mentioned it to me when we first started dating I think but I had completely forgotten about it. So I asked him if he did not want me to text him while he was gone and he said it would be fine if I text him, it just might take a while to respond. So the first day I texted "Hi! Just wanted to say I hope your having fun". He said thanks and he was only down $20. I did not text him back until today, so over 24 hours. I said "are you up or down?" We texted back and forth a little then I said I was headed to bed and I hope he has fun. He usually texts me Goodnight but he didn't text back. So do I wait for him to text me now? He is due back tomorrow. This whole experience has been strange for me. I have worried that him not texting me much while he is gone is because he is not missing me. I even said I missed him in the text and he didn't say it back, he just didn't text me back. So is this a bad sign? Should I be worried about anything? I don't want to bug him while he is on vacation and I want him to have a good time, just not too good of a time. I should say I have not dated in many many years so this is all new to me. Anything that I need to clarify just let me know.

[Wakeup]

Don't text him again. Let him text you and if you're having sex with him you should ask for exclusivity. Once you're sexual then no matter how soon you started having it, it's not too soon to ask that they don't **** other women while they're ****ing you.

You practically gave him permission to go ahead and date others but just tell you when he's doing it.

What do YOU want this relationship to be?

[Zinnia69]

I want to be in an exclusive relationship with him, but I realize it's still early. I don't want to make him feel pressured. I don't want him to f*** other women. I don't want to f*** anyone else. I'm thinking about telling him this weekend if we are still going to the concert. I feel like my life is falling apart around me. My check engine light came on in my car and my heat went out. I don't know how I'm going to fix it.

[Wakeup]

Breathe, Zinnia.. One thing at a time.

Call a heating firm and get someone to come and fix your furnace if you're in a house. Call your landlord immediately if you rent and tell them so they can get it fixed. If you live in an apartment then call your superintendent.

The "check engine" light is an indication that you need some service on your vehicle. It can be something as little as an oil change so don't panic until you see your mechanic or your car dealership.. call either or and book an appointment.

As for him. You know what you want so ask for it. If he doesn't want what you want then why would you settle for something less then what will actually make you secure and happy in the relationship? Settling is just putting off an even worse shit-storm of emotional hell in the future.

[dontaskme]

Here's a good rule of thumb that every woman who is not in her right mind should remember.... NEVER HAVE SEX with a guy UNLESS YOU ARE EXCLUSIVE in the relationship!

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Unless you are only looking to have sex and not a meaningful relationship.

[michelle23]

Why are you being so passive aggressive letting it all be on his terms. When i was single and looking, every guy i dated knew what i wanted and there was zero sex without exclusivity. That includes anything beyond a kiss.. now i am in a happy 6year relationship. It was always on my terms. With your attitude, you will never get anywhere.. its never too soon to say "i don't do casual"

[woody]

Good golly. Though I understand the nerves, you've got to step back a little here. He's in Vegas and probably having a good time, out late with his buddy, getting way too inebriated and sloppy, lost track of time and seriously hung over the next day.
Prove your confidence and trust in him. No need to text. You'll see him soon right.

[JohanD]

If he is in Vegas and you have some nice things going with him, the fact that he is not that great answering can be that he is really in to what he is doing and is purely concentrated on the playing... You finally got an answer from him? Did he tell you what he was up to?