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Why would a woman who is clearly unhappy not purse a divorce?
Because she's co-dependent and too afraid to leave. She will not likely leave him due to her own insecurity and lack of personal boundaries. If she was put together, she would have gone to a lawyer, found out what her options are, looked for a place that she could afford and then left a man that ignores her and their daughter and doesn't come home until 5:00 in the morning... She certainly wouldn't start a sexual relationship with someone else while staying put in her marriage.
Do women stay in unhappy Marriages and suffer because of children?
Some do but more times then not they stay in the unhappy marriage because the are codependent and need to work on their own issues before they will get the strength to leave. They use the children as an excuse to not have to deal with everything that leaving entails.
Is she really that confused of her feelings and emotions?
Well you're not helping by being an interloper into her marriage. If you weren't there perhaps she'd get the therapy she needs to figure out why she stays in such a unsatisfying marriage. She obviously still thinks she loves him or she would have left by now, no? Why don't you step out of her life and let her figure herself out instead of being the ass you are by worming your way into her marriage? Subconsciously she likely doesn't even trust you knowing that you'd get yourself involved with a woman already taken and I'm sure that MUST be in the back of your mind as well. How can you trust someone that doesn't have the personal boundaries in place to leave instead of cheating?
What is it that I am not seeing?
You're not seeing the forest for the trees. I hope that what you read here will open your eyes.
Would appreciate comments,any and all.
Back away. Tell her that you're not going to continue doing this anymore and that you go No Contact so that she can figure herself out and decide whether she wants to see if she can fix her marriage or do the right thing and leave him... This having her cake while she eats it to is YOU enabling her to never have to leave him and whatever security she clings to that he gives her.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion