How many times a week should you see your SO?

[saz]

Hi every one! Hope you're all ok

My SO and I have been together for nearly 2 years. Let me just say it hasn't been easy - it's probably been the most bumpiest rollercoaster ever! Ups and downs. Arguments. You name it. Normal though right

We went through a stage of seeing each other pretty much every day (and let me just state that this is not healthy – couples should never get into this habit!). We both worked part time and could easily make time for each other as we had many days off and evenings where we could stay up late without worrying about getting up early. He plays football most evenings and sees his friends (when we had part time jobs he’d pop over to see me before or after doing these).

Now however we have full time jobs, you know the 9 til 5 kind of day. With hobbies in the evenings and soon enough after this there isn’t time to see each other after all of this because it’s time for bed to get up again early the next day!

To be honest as I stated above I don’t think seeing each other every day is healthy, it nearly killed off my relationship. We starting arguing a lot and not appreciating each other and our great relationship. Now I just don’t understand couples that see each other every day, unless you live together, but even then surely you need your own space?

Seeing each other every day is a habit - you just need to crack out of it (and it is hard to do it).

Because we have full time jobs now we can only really see each other on weekends. Usually though he’ll see me for a bit on an evening and go to his friend’s house (his friend needs him at the moment for company due to his girlfriend breaking up with him 3 weeks ago – I guess my boyfriend is very caring for giving up extra quality time with me for his friend).

What do you all think – 2 times a week at weekends is enough to keep your relationship alive?

x

[michelle23]

Okay well i was in college full time, worked part time and still saw my SO at least 4-5times a week our first year. It became more frequent as time went on and after 3 years we moved in together. We then worked full time, college part time and still spent quality time together every day.

Unlike your relationship, it hasn't been a rollercoaster, we don't fight or argue often. We hit a rough patch after my aunt died-i was grieving, it was hard but he supported me through it and we came out the other side a stronger team.

Were now engaged and having a baby.

Its not "normal" for your relationship to be so complicated and after 2years together, if you cannot stand being around each other more than 2times a week-your relationship is not healthy. My bf is my best friend-we have fun together, i enjoy his company, we laugh a lot and the chemistry is still very strong.

Your with the wrong guy

[saz]

Hi michelle23

But to be honest it's not that we can't stand to be around each other for more than 2 times a week - it's hard to due to work! If we lived together it would be different.

I completely understand your part though of hitting a rough patch due to a death in the family. My family means every thing to me and I'd be devastated. I can empathise with you.

We've only hit a rough patch this year but we're getting through it. My boyfriend can be very difficult sometimes and enjoys his own space. I just think every one's relationship is different. But my relationship isn't complicated I don't know where you've got that from?

My boyfriend is my best friend too - the best friend I've ever had. I've had girl bestfriends but they didn't compare to my boyfriend.

I appreciate your opinion but I think it is perfectly normal to argue and have your differences. Arguing and getting through fights together makes your relationship stronger.

We used to see each other every day and it got too much, every one is different.

My friend has been with her boyfriend for 3 years and they can only see each other on weekends (2-3 times a week) due to work. It's perfectly normal. You're just lucky you get to see your SO every day because you live together.