If he has ended it, why didn't he block me this time?

[Anna1408]

I had a bad fight with my guy 2 weeks ago while chatting on gmail (he is out of the country right now). He was grouchy from the first moment and really tried to provoke me. He has a very stressful court case right now and he was obviously affected by it. I tried to be understanding and to tell him everything was going to be ok. He said he wasn't worried (although clearly he was, and secretly so am I). But he continued to be nasty and sarcastic. He began hinting heavily that I was being lazy and not dedicated enough with a project we are doing together. This made me indignant since I have been working hard on that until 1 or 2 am some nights. Finally he succeeded in making me angry too, and a row escalated where I told him I would never work on his project again.

He just got more and more hurtful and then he said "so are you saying you're not mine anymore?" I replied "How can I be yours when you treat me like rubbish?" I was crying by then and in a bit of a state. He said then that he was kicking me out of his life and that I am "bullshit". I said "You are", and signed out without a word.

Later I found a message from him that said "Come on. You know we can't seperate. These words we said were in anger. They mean nothing." But then I found an email, written 20 minutes later. It said: "The mistake you have made this time...you don't know how big it is for you..."

And that's it. I've heard nothing from him in 2 weeks. Normally after a big row,he initiates contact after 7-14 days and acts passionate, and relieved that I welcome him back with open arms. This is the longest he has gone without contacting me and I am now worried.

But the thing is, every time we have had this kind of "it's over" fight before (which has happened several times over the last 2 years due to his stressful situation), he has blocked me on gmail. This time he hasn't blocked me, which is totally uncharacteristic of him. He ALWAYS blocks me.

Has he not blocked me this time because he has not given up on our relationship? I can see him online but he never pings me.

[Wakeup]

I had a bad fight with my guy 2 weeks ago while chatting on gmail (he is out of the country right now). He was grouchy from the first moment and really tried to provoke me. He has a very stressful court case right now and he was obviously affected by it. I tried to be understanding and to tell him everything was going to be ok. He said he wasn't worried (although clearly he was, and secretly so am I). But he continued to be nasty and sarcastic. He began hinting heavily that I was being lazy and not dedicated enough with a project we are doing together. This made me indignant since I have been working hard on that until 1 or 2 am some nights. Finally he succeeded in making me angry too, and a row escalated where I told him I would never work on his project again.

He just got more and more hurtful and then he said "so are you saying you're not mine anymore?" I replied "How can I be yours when you treat me like rubbish?" I was crying by then and in a bit of a state. He said then that he was kicking me out of his life and that I am "bullshit". I said "You are", and signed out without a word.

Later I found a message from him that said "Come on. You know we can't seperate. These words we said were in anger. They mean nothing." But then I found an email, written 20 minutes later. It said: "The mistake you have made this time...you don't know how big it is for you..."

And that's it. I've heard nothing from him in 2 weeks. Normally after a big row,he initiates contact after 7-14 days and acts passionate, and relieved that I welcome him back with open arms. This is the longest he has gone without contacting me and I am now worried.

But the thing is, every time we have had this kind of "it's over" fight before (which has happened several times over the last 2 years due to his stressful situation), he has blocked me on gmail. This time he hasn't blocked me, which is totally uncharacteristic of him. He ALWAYS blocks me.

Has he not blocked me this time because he has not given up on our relationship? I can see him online but he never pings me.

And that's it. I've heard nothing from him in 2 weeks. Normally after a big row,he initiates contact after 7-14 days and acts passionate, and relieved that I welcome him back with open arms.

Grow up for goodness sakes and learn how to communicate. Hone your personal boundaries too so that you stop people in their tracks when they are being unreasonably cantankerous to you for no reason. Had you stopped his nonsense within the first few disrespectful comments then none of this would have happened.

Quit logging off on people "unannounced" and then expecting them to be rushing back "passionate and relieved." How immature.

Now... by the sounds of things, you two are not good lifemates and that you would do better finding someone who doesn't live far away and is expecting some kind of court case to change his life. However: If you insist on being with someone you don't get along with then contact him and see if he's open to responding to you so that YOU feel passionate and relieved. He's dosing out some of your own immature medicine.