You've known him 7 fking weeks. You DON'T EVEN KNOW WHO HE IS, he doesn't know who you are and he's already introduced you to his children which is rather dysfunctional in itself. He's been married and divorced/annulled/separated three times. Why can't he get it right? I'd say because he jumps into bullshit with women he barely even knows and finds out later that it was a mistake. That's a personality that is issued and you are just as issued if you let yourself get carried away like you are in a seven week period.
Your intuition is telling you exactly what I just wrote above and its no wonder you're angst ridden.
Do yourself a service and back off a bit and stop the insanity. You can get to know him without ingratiating yourself into his children's lives. The chances (at this point) are very very high that you will be the next woman that comes into their young lives and then disappears when their father's particular brand of relationship crazy surfaces.
That's child abuse.
... And NO. You are not going to have to automatically trust him. Trust comes with actions showing you that you can trust him... It's not automatic in the least.
Step out of the situation and slow the fk down. 7 WEEKS ... it's ridiculous how you're allowing him to sweep you down stream in his current.
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P.S. Emotional cheating is STILL CHEATING and his cyber proclivities are a HUGE red flag. You'd do well to contact his ex'S and find out why they are so.
For someone who is online so much you'd think he'd be proud to display his status with you... Instead he hides you so he can continue to play... or so it seems.
He's begged me to be open and honest
Then be so and tell him that you don't want him to continue his online addictions to having the attention of other women and that you want him to delete all his profiles except facebook wherein he claims his relationship status as in a relationship with you. If he acquiesces then you have yourself a someone who is trustworthy as indicated by his actions to you. If he won't do that then that tells you a completely different story.
Instead of being too afraid to lose him so you don't say a thing why not be too afraid to get with another asshole and start being afraid NOT to say things.
Last edited by Wakeup; 07-12-14 at 12:35 PM.
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