Realize this, and if you can't then you really do need to get therapy to help you realize it: This man was abusive to you and you are addicted now to being mis-treated and disrespected.
Any women that are not with issue, who are not addicted to abuse would have fled this man the minute he started whelding all this control over you. He's a vile and disgusting assclown and now that you are free of him... do the work you need to do on yourself so that you truly believe that you deserve better then what this twat dished out to you.
Here is a link to an abused woman's help site. Just because he didn't hit you it doesn't mean you weren't abused.
[url=http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/help-for-abused-and-battered-women.htm]Help for Abused and Battered Women: Protecting Yourself and Escaping from Domestic Violence[/url]
Hone your very lacking personal boundaries so that you have the confidence and strength to tell people to stop when they are treating you with this kind of abuse and be able to quickly leave them if they do not stop: Here's a link on the importance of personal boundaries.
[url=http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-importance-of-personal-boundaries/0001112]The Importance of Personal Boundaries | Psych Central[/url]
Forget him by working on yourself. Doing that will keep you busy as you go through the steps you need to go through to overcome your codependency... here is a link on that:
[url=http://serenityonlinetherapy.com/codependency.htm]Codependency: Loss of Self In Others[/url]
Learn to love yourself enough to recognize and quickly chuck men who do not value you, who try to control you, who mentally and emotionally abuse you.
P.S. You DO NOT want this man crawling back to you and asking for an apology. He has a whole different set of issues that he needs to get professional help with before he'll ever change. He's a product of his upbringing (as are you I'd imagine) that won't change unless he actually realizes he has a problem.
Last edited by Wakeup; 21-12-14 at 06:37 AM.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion