Does my doctor like me?

[rhizome]

This is the first time in my life I am writing my feelings online because I feel confused. I am not a good reader of people, and men are as hard to read as women. So I am resorting to this. I like my doctor and I feel he likes me too. But I am not sure if he likes me. I have known him for a year now. He did my surgery and now is treating me for other things. Since I first started seeing him his behavior towards me has changed. In the beginning he was attentive, he listened, he returned calls etc. but now it is something else. Now he does all of those things but with more patience and spends more time with me. For example, he returns my calls almost immediately if I have a question. Before he would take a day or less. Now he does not rush me on the phone, before he would rush. During meetings, he almost spends 20-40 minutes answering my questions (i have a lot of questions). During those meetings, he directly looks into my eyes the whole time. I do like him a lot, and am not sure if he likes me too. I am of course not going to break the protocol and ask him out. But it would help to know if I read him correctly. Does he like me too?

[tayhei]

I really doubt he does, sorry. There's no indication in your post he likes you more than a patient. He seems like a good doctor and is just doing his job. Besides, doctors can't date their patients, if they care to keep their licence. Don't try to flirt or ask him out, it will only make him have to refer you to another doctor and you won't be able to be under his care anymore. His increased attention towards you is most likely him trying to keep you as a continuing patient so he can stay in business.

[TablesandChairs]

I think you might be reading into things a bit much. My doctor is exactly the same with me - very attentive, answers all questions, looks things up. He's the same with my mum, my sister etc.

You mentioned that he's changed his approach a bit - doctors do that; for example, sometimes they're swamped - not just with patients, but with research, papers, some do a bit of lecturing/tutoring, they have exams, conferences so they might not go that extra mile.

As tayhei says - when someone is a doctor/specialist, they're also a businessman/woman - you are a patient and you're also a client. When someone gives me good service or they go the extra mile - I'm grateful but I don't assume they're in love with me. I wouldn't let this consume you.

[Wakeup]

This is the first time in my life I am writing my feelings online because I feel confused. I am not a good reader of people, and men are as hard to read as women. So I am resorting to this. I like my doctor and I feel he likes me too. But I am not sure if he likes me. I have known him for a year now. He did my surgery and now is treating me for other things. Since I first started seeing him his behavior towards me has changed. In the beginning he was attentive, he listened, he returned calls etc. but now it is something else. Now he does all of those things but with more patience and spends more time with me. For example, he returns my calls almost immediately if I have a question. Before he would take a day or less. Now he does not rush me on the phone, before he would rush. During meetings, he almost spends 20-40 minutes answering my questions (i have a lot of questions). During those meetings, he directly looks into my eyes the whole time. I do like him a lot, and am not sure if he likes me too. I am of course not going to break the protocol and ask him out. But it would help to know if I read him correctly. Does he like me too?[/

No! He is simply being kind and professional. Direct your crush elsewhere.

[pcmaster]

He loves you.

[Wakeup]

^^^ Sarcasm.

[breathe123]

He has a nice doctor what do they call it~ a good bedside manner about him, maybe he is a kind man & cares about those he treats. Better to not crush on him, if so maybe change doctors which would be too bad because he seems like a thoughtful doctor.

[rhizome]

Thank you for all the responses. While it is good to get a dose of reality, I had not quite left it, though.
I think it is time men stop saying women are hard to read. For us women, men are really really hard to
read.

[pcmaster]

Well in the end you can read what you want to read. You said You wont ask him out so it doesnt matter he likes you or not. Dont wana be insensitive here but without straight talk theres just assumptions.

[Wakeup]

Thank you for all the responses. While it is good to get a dose of reality, I had not quite left it, though.
I think it is time men stop saying women are hard to read. For us women, men are really really hard to
read.

No they are not really, really hard to read. You just don't know proper "tells" that a guy is into you and you're projecting your own crush onto him. When a guy likes you and would like to be with you, believe me... you'll know it. Once you "know it" then it's up to your own common sense and GOOD personal boundaries to guide you to finding out just how seriously he wants to be with you. Wanting to have sex with you and wanting to be with you as a partner in life are two completely different "wants."

[lovebroken]

I wish my doctor was as nice as the one you have, rhizome. Mine never takes the time - rushes you in and then out in record speeds. It would be hard to keep a doctor you are crushing on, I'd think.