I started a job in a bar in September. i met a guy there who was intimidatingly good looking and cool, I'm not normally into really good looking guys so I didn't really make an effort, but as we started talking I realised we had loads in common and very similar sense of humour.
One night I was on a bar on my own but the guy kept coming in to talk to me, we both like smoking and ended up doing so after the shift and he asked me if I wanted a lift home, I said yes. He didn't drive me straight home, we drove around for over an hour exploring and smoking, then he dropped me off.
So the nights we work together go by in a similar way, though I haven't got a ride home again off him. A regular bar fly must have seen us together because the other night he warned me about the boy. He told me that he had hurt girls working there before and that I should stay away. On the same night I was told that a he and another coworker had been very close at the staff party, which I had missed. So I took both pieces of information and decided to keep away from him.
At the weekend I worked two shifts with him, the first I got put on a bar with him all night, just us two. We had the best night, he suggested us drinking lots (sort of accepted where we work its a bit of a mad house) and I agreed. We danced and smoked and I told him about my warning and he seemed hurt. He mentioned the girl at the staff party, how she had been telling him how charming he was. I said "you must have been pleased" as the girl is really stunning, she looks Egyptian and proper womanly all curves, (opposite to me as I am a size 6, very pale etc), but he said he wasn't into it at all and that she wasn't his type.
The next night was my last before Xmas so me and another girl coworker got to work a few hours early to drink and watch bands play. the guy and I got put on the same bar again and he automatically starts making me drinks and we have another great night. At the end we go out smoking and laugh a lot but my taxi turns up and I get up to leave, turn to say bye but he has his back to me and doesn't say anything.
I have been texting another guy who works there who likes me but has a girlfriend, I'm only texting him as a friend and I mentioned my crush making me drinks all night and he replies saying "that's his technique. Tried and tested"
My crush has made no effort to get my number or contact me outside work, there are moments when he could make a move but hasn't.
I'm just feeling pretty embarrassed because a few people have given me warnings about him now. I don't even know if he likes me, we just seem to really click, but maybe that's just how it seems when he turns on his charms... Our eyes always seem to meet through the crowd, the way he looks at me drives me insane
I don't want to be just another girl that fancies the only hot guy at work, but I feel like it's a bit too late. Should I just keep my distance? I have tried but it seems like he always wants to chat to me. Maybe I should just ask him to keep his distance and I am impressionable and weak willed. Please help!