please help me.....do i tell him or not?

[nima]

"u can make a man good in bed ... u cant make him love you"

geez, i guess :-/ but if someone has a low sex drive, you can't change that either.

and you're right, misombra - i don't feel like i even know myself at all, let alone what i want in a partner, even though i'm 20!

but the original question remains....do you think i should tell james that i like him, or just keep hiding it from him and be miserable?

[misombra]

20 is very young my dear. of course you don't feel like you know yourself. you've been involved with these guys and now you're lost in them. can't you move out. leave these guys behind. don't give your life away to some guys that you KNOW are not for you.

[mhussain]

ur choice nima ...

Hussain

[nima]

i guess so....and nope - can't really move out, cause of contracts/school etc!

ugh - what to do?! i know one thing for sure - i have to stop the way that my whole happiness relies on james calling me or not!! i feel like a loser, lke i'm bound to him or something :-(

[nima]

yeah i know it's my choice, but i can't decide! that's why i posted on this board!

[mhussain]

no one here can tell u wht to do

u hve to decide for urself

Hussain

[Tone]

and i know, cheating is terrible, I feel terrible about it - i totally screwed up the whole situation, and i so regret it. but what is done is done!

and i feel so guilty, and he's so sweet - i feel like i have to be with him the rest of my life even though he may not be right for me, just because....i want him to be happy so badly, especially after what i put him through :-(

Well for starters you can STOP PLANNING TO CHEAT AGAIN.

james is still with the girl he cheated with me on, but she is going back to italy in september and so he has to split up with her - he's gonna be single again.

For crying out loud... you're terribly selfish and need to start to think about the consequences your actions are having on others.

You're 20 years old, it's time to stop playin games, grow up and make a decision. James or Sam, you can't have both.

Stop.

Being.

Selfish.

[artyemi]

nima-

some of the wisest people on the board are giving you advice.

but they can't make up your mind for you.

people will always wonder what if this, or what if that.

wanting to make someone happy is a poor reason to stay with them, especially if you are not absoluately crazy about them. it's unfair to that person because someone out there will probably be a better match and treat them better than you have.

yes.. you are selfish. but you can stop it by a choice now.

[misombra]

i agree quit cheating. that's why you're all confused.

[ALovelyLady86]

I agree with Tone...

Hm..

It sounds like to me you dont love the man who loves you or you wouldnt have cheated on him in the first place. Then you have the balls to act all sad because the other guy cheated on you? Well hunny the world doesnt revolve around you.
You really need to look inside yourself and admit to yourself what youre really doing. And I dont want to hear anymore of this "but I love them both!" because you dont. Real love is different than the crap youre doing.

Sorry if I sound mean... sometimes I'm just like this... I dont know why.
Yes I do.. you remind me of my room mate... hehehe I'm going to be quiet now.