What is happening here? Am i reading between lines? Suggestions please

[eyes84]

Hi Everyone
This post will be a bit long but I want to explain the whole story to you.

I work in a project where people from another company come every week or two to support our work. There is this guy from other company who is very nice and charming. To be very honest I like him. When I first met him I was dating my ex, so I did not bother his presence. I broke up with my ex last year (almost 10 months) that’s when this guy's visits were frequent at work. Initially I did not talk to him, It was just Hi and Bye.

I worked with him two three times and I liked his nature. We are from different ethnic backgrounds. He is a white guy - very sincere and humble. Whenever he come to me talk to me nicely. Everyone from his company praise him. Now here is the situation:

- Whenever he is here and we strike a conversation, it always go well does not matter if it is for 15 mins or half an hour

- He does not hang out after work with me as there is another set of people at work with whom he work closely. He go out with them on dinner and drinks etc. He did invited me once or twice which i refused politely last year as I had other commitments to deal with.

- When I talk to him he look very interested in me

- Few times when he was here, I worked late. As per his company rules, he has to stay late until business is closed. So whenever I stayed late he basically came and talked to me given that there were few people sitting next to him . He made an effort to leave them there and come to me to talk (We sit at different locations). I remember last 2-3 times, where he saw me working and came to me to know why I am late and asked lots of things about me like about my family, my recent travelling plans, my weekend plans, my daily routine and all. I asked similar questions from him too. He listens to me with a lot of interest. I remember him saying many times that now when you are travelling, you should come to my city. I told him I will. I have my top list of places to go and he always say “my city will be the topmost in your list”. Last time I said “your city is in my list but really want to go to Italy first” as I haven’t travelled in last 5 years. He said “as long as my city is in your list I am more than happy”.

-Last time ( month and half ago) when he was here, I was leaving late from work as my friend was suppose to pick me up. He came to my cubicle, talked about me and my family, about when I am going to see them (I work in different country). He asked hws everything going? My weekend plans? I told him that I bought a new car and my driving test is next week. He was like awesome. I told him right now a friend of mine drive my car since he works close by and parking is free for him. We car pool with 2 other friends and he lives in same building so we dnt have to wait for each other. Our friends join us on our way and it more economical. He said is he your boyfriend? I told him no…he is very young like a brother. He said “ok, You are very nice to let your friend drive your car”. I told him that I cant drive now on my learner’s license and I drive very slow as I am learning. Then talk shifted to our travelling plans this and that. We talked for 35 mins and shared a good rapport. Next day he left and before leaving he came to our cubicle said bye to everyone including me.

- This time before he was suppose to come here. We had conversation on email. He asked if I will be here. I said I will be in office when he ll come. Then he came. He came into office said Hi. That day I worked bit late and he was still sitting there. I was in bad mood due to some family tension and I asked my best friend to meet me. Since she was working late, I thought of waiting for her in office and finishing my things.while leaving I was putting my coat on, I saw his head popped up from side of my cubicle asking “are you leaving”…I said yes. Then he was like ‘ok have a great night..Are you coming tomorrow”. I said yes I will be in office tomorrow. Then he walked away with his teammate. He was going out at that time when he saw me putting my coat on.

- Next day I worked whole day saw him here and there at work. Talked a little bit. He asked my new year plans , I told him my friends are thinking to go for a new year eve event at club. Then later when I was going for coffee alone, another work colleague met me. We were talking for 5 mins and I saw him noticing me. Whole day went normal. Since it was new year eve, I worked late again to finish off my task list. My teammate left early and he was in my cubicle that time. When my teammate left, he also walked out of cubicle. Later after half an hour, I went to get some hot water for tea and he saw me walking. He was busy working on something, but he moved his head to see who passed by. The moment I came back and sat on my chair. I heard him getting up and walking out of his cubicle. First he went 2-3 steps to other side and then turned back to mine. He entered my cube saying “hey you are working late today?” and sat on desk next to mine. I told him “my friend went for groceries and car is with him as he requested me to wait. Anyways I was working on something so I told him to go”. He was like ok. Then he asked so whats the plan for today again. I told him about the plans. I asked him what you would have done if you were at your place. He said probably a house party. I told him I like house parties better as you stay in your comfort zone. We had pretty good conversation where I ended up telling him “ If I go home now my mom will ask me to find a suitable guy for me”. He said “my mom asks me same all the time” . Then he asked “you dnt find good guys here”. I told him “ nothing like that, its just that I did not meet one”.

During conversation he asked me if I was coming next day (It was official holiday)..I told him I am coming but not for work. I have a friend from his team who is from my country. I would like to take him for lunch as a friendly gesture and he can join us too. He said if he will be free he will come. I told him if he was free that night he can join me and my friends. Then he said he don’t know what time he will be finishing. He said he is leaving on third day around 9 PM, I asked if he have any plans for that day. He said he is not sure if there are any plans. We talked for around 30 mins and then he got up and stood next to cubicle entrance. Someone from another team called him by name and he turned and started talking to that person. He kept walking while talking to the person and went back to his cubicle and started working. No proper end of conversation between us. I left one hour after that and while leaving as I passed his cubicle I wished everyone including him a happy new year.

- Next day I did not go to office since I got call from my friend that it was very busy in office. He wont be able to make it. So Lunch was cancelled.

- Today was his last day here. I came to work and started working. I went for coffee with team mates. He was walking into the office and came directly to us in cafeteria. He sat with us and started talking about the work and project, whatever happened on holiday. In between he stopped and asked how was your new year celebration? I told him it was fun. We spent some time at club and ended up going to a friend’s place for 2-3 hours. He said you said” you were suppose to come yesterday” then I said “yes I was suppose to but then my friend told me it was busy so lunch got cancelled and I ended up going to friends place”. We talked there for 20-25 mins about the project stuff and came back to our desks. Since then we didn’t talk at all. Now when he left for his city, he just left. Without even saying a good bye or anything. I am so disappointed.

Am I reading between lines? Sometime I feel he is interested I me and he likes me…then right away his behavior is different. Am I thinking to much and assuming too much?
Please advice me in this situation that what should I do? I really like this guy and would like to date him? What should I do? Is there anything with which I can grab his attention?

[eyes84]

guys I need your advice?