Convincing a man who doesn't have the goal of having kids any time soon otherwise is a difficult task. I don't know how the culture is like in your country but where I am from, there are sufficient number of men who do share goals of having that family life. Maybe you need to find another man who is on the same page.
A strong woman takes advantage of help she can get from people around her but she doesn't rely on them for anything
She uses logic and manages her emotions
She offers help either because it is a business transaction or out of kindness. It is never because she hopes others will return the favour or out of fear of losing them
She has her own mind and thinks for herself and knows that she has to be the one who bears the consequences of her decisions