Hi everyone,
My (now) ex and I were together for 1 and a half years and broke up a little over 3 weeks ago.
We had a happy relationship for the first year and the last 6 months were truly testing, however, I was more than willing to work on whatever issues we were having. Since both our final year of university started, we were finding it a little difficult to balance spending time with each other and concentrate on our work. I was always the one who would initiate spending time with each other and even talking to each other! I felt like I was the only one who was putting in the effort (even throwing him a surprise birthday party tho weeks beforehand) and by the end, I was sick of it. We had a fight (over FaceTime!) and this time, I didn't care and had the intention of breaking up with him as I know I deserve somebody who WANTS to see/speak to me rather than sees it as a chore. Anyways, two days after that fight, I text him saying we had to meet up as soon as possible (he probably had an inkling that I was going to end it), he then replied...and he broke up with me via text.
He cited reasons such as he had to concentrate on his studies now and can't be in a relationship right now and that we were just too different as people. I lost a whole load of respect for him purely for the way he did it and I suppose it still confuses me now that he could just do that to me, considering he would always call me the love of his life and all that nonsense!
I am friends with his sister and spoke to her shortly after it happened and 'coincidentally' I received a text from him two days after I spoke to her (about a week after we broke up) apologising for how he did it, how he's tried to be respectful of me since (which his social media begs to differ) and thanking me for the time we spent together. Although this all sounds alright, the message was full of him talking about himself and pretty much not considering how I would feel about all this, he even tried to justify the initial 'break up text'.
I didn't reply to the apology text as I see no point, he also said that he would erase my number and all memory of me as that's best for him right now. And yesterday I have seen that he's blocked me on twitter, I found this funny more than anything else seeing as we weren't following each other anyway!
The more I think about it, the more I realise I am better off and that I am able to walk away from this relationship with no regrets regarding the way I treated him or how much I did for him. Did I mention that I lent him my old phone to borrow before we broke up? So essentially, he broke up with me using my phone! It really is laughable.
Overall, I know I will be fine and as the days pass, I am feeling better. But, do you think he will ever realise what he's lost in me? Or perhaps regret letting me go?