Originally Posted by
woody
Hey WakeUp, ok okay ok. I gots to say, GF, BF's become husbands and wives (hence, become Family). Do you honestly think his sisters not a little overly uber protective? She hasn't liked any of her bro's gf's. This present one , (the O.P) has known him for nearly a year and living together for 6 months. True, true, not allot time but its been done before and not all end up in the crapper.
Do you honestly think he should do nothing regarding his sis?
Well, it was Smackie you were quoting but you've asked me so I'll respond with my opinion.
Which is:
A huge row was caused on xmas eve when he decided to spend christmas & boxing day without seeing me at all. A week later once again he wanted me back.
Op: Your problem is that you let him dismiss you only to go back to him once he starts to miss you being in his life. I think the reason that his sister is so involved in his life is because he has mental issues (kicking you out, wanting you back, unable to make his own decisions etc) and she feels responsible for his best interests.
The bottom line isn't that the sis is doing wrong but rather that your bf, her brother is an immature twit who hasn't yet grown up and has allowed his sister to control him, his life in general and his romantic life in particular. This is not going to change and I think that you'd do well to NOT LET HIM HOOVER YOU back in to more of the same. She "hates your guts" and he is not man enough to tell her to fvck off and leave you alone.
Get out while the getting is good before the two of them whittle away at any self respect you may have left.
Now, that being said, IMO Smackie also has a good point. (although I don't think blood being thicker then water (or a gf) is it) You didn't even know this man when you moved in with him. You're finding out and you don't like who you've discovered he is. In future, don't cause yourself to have to pack up and move and pay first and last month's security deposits over and over again... Instead, wait to move in with who you're infatuated with until after the honeymoon period is over and you've found you DO like who you're with before you make that leap.
It was also never an issue before when I was involved in things to but I feel like this will be an ongoing issue and im not sure I want to be involved in it.
Repeating: Your gut is telling you what you need to do so start looking for another place to live and bid him and his sister adeu.
Woody asks:
Do you honestly think he should do nothing regarding his sis?
Yes, he should do something regarding is sis... he allows her too much influence in his life but like I said, he's got issues and at least one is clear: He's not mature enough or man enough to tell his sister to leave his so called "life partner" alone and be nice. That is good reason enough for the Op to vamoose and stay gone even if he calls for her to come back. pffft.
Last edited by Wakeup; 16-01-15 at 09:18 AM.
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