It's not your place to push him to get a job. It's his job to motivate himself! And if he can't be self motivated to find a job, then you've got a big baby on your hands. The fact that his mother is also unemployed and accepting your handouts makes me wonder if he's from a family of bludgers and if this is his 'normal'. Frankly, I can't imagine any woman with good ethics accepting such long term support from her son's girlfriend.
I'm kind of confused about the living/work options. In areas where jobs are hard to find, housing tends to be both cheaper and more plentiful. Places with lots of jobs have housing which is unaffordable and in high demand. What kind of area are you in which has both limited housing and limited employment?
What qualifications does your boyfriend have? What kind of job is he looking for? As he's finding work hard to come by, is he increasing his qualifications?
Why would you lose your stuff if you moved out? It's perfectly normal for a person to take their stuff when they leave. Items which have been purchased jointly can be split between the couples. If you bought the fridge and the bed, then it's tough luck for him.
Last edited by basilandthyme; 26-01-15 at 02:59 PM.
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