strangerelation, need help!!!

[desa]

Hello everybody,

Can anybody give me an oppinion? it is possible for a man to still be attracted by a woman after 9 years? Note that he is with somebody else, but no feelings no attraction. he is not claming this, it is not an excuse, it'a a fact. also he can have all the women he wants (if he wants) and when he wants. but still not giving up on this particular one. at the begining they had a great story where he was basicly crazy about her. but he has change, things are changed. he still remembers almost everything they had and lived in this 9 years. never been together in a normal relation, there were ups and downs during this years. but he wont stop. he keeps coming back and he still excited like a boy just by the idea of her or simetimes just writing to her. how is it possible? what doeas it mean??

Thank you for your time

Kr,
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[Wakeup]

Like I said in your other thread, it's best you tell us what you're relationship is with this man you ask about before we give you an opinion.

[desa]

Hello Wakeup, thank you for answering. I'm sorry if I'm being confusing. The story si complicated and I can't explain it all here. I don't want to know if he loves them or who he loves. I'm talking about attraction. so to siplify the story. There is no real relation between him and me. we are not together, but we know each other for almost 9 years. at the biging we were attracted to one another as mad. we can even call it love. but things are changed. we have seen each-other during this years, and we have had ups and downs. he is with another woman but no feelings or fisical attraction about her. on the other hand, he keeps comming back to me, he wont give up after all this years. he still is excited just by the idea of me, and even when we chat. i asked him to be friends but he says he can't. he can't see me and pretend to be friends when all he wants is to jump on me every time he seas me. and is not about trying trying with another woman, or just getting laid. he can have all the women he want's if he want's to. so how is it possible, if it is possible for a man to be attracted and excited by the same woman after 9 years???
Thank you again.

[Wakeup]

Why don't you want him the way he wants you?

I think he's sick to be honest and that's why he doesn't stop. People who are not issued would have left contact with you and never contacted a woman that doesn't want him like he wants her.

You'd do both you and him a favour by stopping all contact with him if you only want "friends." That would be what most women would do with someone that is obsessive.