Have I blown it with my boyfriend

[wanderlust27]

My boyfriend told me some things last night and I think he is right. What I'm asking is can I salvage this relationship ?

He told me I don't listen and he cant be with someone who doesnt listen so I have to in future. That I have moaned about my life instead of being positive. That I ask for reassurances which gets him down. That I over analyse

I had a life changing experience that knocked me back just over a year ago, my husband died, and he says he has helped me through that. Thats why I have been like this and he says now I have to stop and forget the past and look forward. He says he means what he says that I shouldn't over analyse and that I should totally trust him. He then said he loves me but dont blow it.
So I thought and realised he is just telling me the truth...he is right...I need to snap out of this and I will take all this advice and do it.
He has been down a lot the last few days with a lot of work so I think thats affected his patience with me too.
I'm just worried do you think I've blown it or can I salvage this if I listen to what he has said and be positive always around him. I love him and I don't want to lose him.

After we had this conversation on the phone yesterday and he was very forthright with me...he did then message me last night to say sweet dreams...and he just emailed me this morning. So I think I have a chance to salvage things but I'm scarred I say one more wrong thing and wreck it...and I love him so much I don't want that to happen.

So my questions are ...can I salvage this ...and should I see a counsellor maybe as I agree I am reading too deep into anything and too wrapped up in how I feel to see clearly which is why I've said some of this stuff to him.
Thanks

[James_]

You lost your husband just over a year ago? It sure seems like you are entitled to some grieving time. Your boyfriend says he loves you, BUT don't blow it? I wouldn't be too concerned about losing a relationship with someone who can't be sympathetic to your loss and how you must feel.

Of course at some point you do have to move forward, but give yourself time to properly grieve and heal.

As far as being positive, it will help you and everyone around you if you can remain positive. Easier said than done sometimes.

Good luck to you.

[Wakeup]

Get that counseling. You jumped from being a window right into this guys embrace and I'm sure you've not healed and come to terms with your loss so of course you're going to be down at times... unfortunately he's the one that's there now (having jumped into a relationship with you before you've healed enough to maintain positivity) to see you when those down times occur.

May I ask why you jumped into another relationship so quickly?