Breakup

[basilandthyme]

Wakeup nailed it a couple of posts ago.

[Janet62]

Sounds like good advice you think I'd be use to this he dumped me once before

[dontaskme]

Do we think you'd be used to getting dumped by the same guy? Is that your question? How old are you by the way?

[Janet62]

Thanks screwing my head on straight.Even the negative stuff which nobody likes to hear the truth. Anyway time to move on no looking back😀So anyway thanks for listening!

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Thanks for the advice some of it was hard to hear but its what I needed to hear. I know it won't be easy but moving on and not looking back.So anyway thanks for being so tough on me I needed it. Thanks for the words of wisdom and God bless😊Janet

[woody]

Janet, between what Wakeup, Dontask, and B&T said, they've all nailed it.

Hold strong. As they said, you make your own 'closure'.

Does it hurt? of course. Yet you must stop giving your power away by expecting word from him, reasons that will never come, questions that will get no answer. Lady, you just have to let him go and for goodness sake, hold to it.

You'll be alright. Time heals all. Get back to yourself and if it helps, make a list of all the pro's and con's of this fella; it may help you to put things into perspective but again, no more texting okay? Yup, got to knock that off. Stop giving your power away.
Everything will be alright.
Go find something that'll take your mind off him and onto other, more positive things..
take care of YOU

[Janet62]

Well I blow it tonight I finally got mad and sent him a nasty text . I told him who couldn't stand up to a woman. I also told him the sex sucked. And that he said he didn't want anyone because he was to immature and selfish to spend his life with anyone else. I told him the man I live with might have ED but the sex was still better. And at least he wasn't afraid to face a woman. I hoped he liked living his life alone . It may have been wrong but man it felt good!

[basilandthyme]

hahaha. Well, you've pretty much guaranteed that he's going to look back on you as being a bullet he dodged!

[dontaskme]

Just let it go woman. You need to stop making a fool of yourself. The more you act like a SCORNED ex, the more he's glad he dumped your ass!

[Janet62]

Did as stupid thing text my ex while I was drunk I was cruel . I've since apologized but I'm never cruel

[smackie9]

Can anyone tell me how to get over a breakup fast!

Find another guy and enjoy!

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Did as stupid thing text my ex while I was drunk I was cruel . I've since apologized but I'm never cruel

You can't keep punishing him it's just a normal process in life. The relationship had run it's course, his feelings dissipated and he did the right thing by not letting it drag on......now stop beating yourself up, and stop trying to keep him in your life....move forward.

[woody]

Janet,
My partners ex that he hadn't seen in 8 months before he met me, when she found out he had moved on, began sending 100's of texts, emails.... what a doozy. He stopped reading them after the first few. She continued sending and sending and put herself in 'crazy girl' status.
Any respect he had had for her was dissipated through this.

Don't do the same thing.
I know this is tough without closure from him but as we have been screaming at you, YOU MAKE YOUR OWN CLOSURE.
I'm sorry your hurting. I am. I really hope you don't keep sending him your power via texts.
You want him to hurt as much as you are; but you need to understand you'll only hurt yourself more if you focus on that. What you need to do is walk away and don't look back. In a few days, your strength will begin to return and each day will become easier.
But if you keep sending texts and then more, your putting yourself back at square one. Don't.
good luck lady. I've said all I can and I wish you well