Hi, will try to keep it brief.
My boyfriend is acting very out of character lately. We are both late 20's and do not live together. We have been together 1.5 years.
For the past month or so he has taken to drinking. He never used to drink. I didn't even know he was drinking or where he was, but he started being more quiet, flaky, less communicative throughout the week.
He finally told me that he has been drinking a lot lately and this shocked me. Says that he doesn't feel right. That something is wrong and he doesn't know what. Gives me very vague explanations.
Turns out after work he's been going to a bar. Didn't even tell me this. He works in a town over an hour away and has a long commute every evening so this alarmed me very much so.
Friday before Valentine's day we were scheduled to have dinner together. Nothing fancy, the local diner, but it was gonna be our night together. He cancelled saying there was too much traffic, and stayed the night down in the town he works in at a friends house. I was sad but told him we could do dinner another night (which never happened).
Saturday, Valentine's day, he finally comes home, and invites me over. We eat lunch and he asks for a blowjob, so I give him one. He then falls asleep and will not wake up. I saw him for all of 30 minutes on Valentine's day before he fell asleep. I was downtrodden. He later apologized for his rudeness.
While he was asleep I noticed a mark on his neck. Looked a bit like a hickey but hard to tell. When I saw him again 2 days later the mark was still there.
Now I'm anxious. He's spending nights away, has a mark on his neck... I don't want to jump to conclusions but I'm scared!
Just a few weeks ago we had a conversation about his interactions with other girls.
Several months ago he had told me "I never even talk to other girls. At all!" I raised my eyebrows and brushed it off thinking he was exagerrating, but over time he continued to say things like that. Well, a few weeks ago he mentions that he has to pick up brownie mix to make brownies for the girls at work. I turn to him and smirk, "oh, girls?" Kinda giving him a hard time, teasing him. He says "well yeah, they like my baking, I bring the muffins all the time"
Then I'm actually shocked. I say "you tell me how you never even talk to other girls, but you're baking them treats? I don't even get any of these treats. I love muffins and brownies but I get none?"
He then says that yes, he talks to those girls, but they don't count, he doesn't see them like girls. I feel kinda irritated that he tried to act like he never speaks to anyone with a vagina, when he should've just said that he is friends with the ladies at his work.
Another alarming moment that made me question the "I never talk to girls!" line, was in December when we went to his work party. I noticed a girl across the room kept staring at me and him and seemed to be waving, and at first I thought she was waving at me, but then she kept turning away. Later when my boyfriend got up to get a coffee she chased him down and squealed and hugged him. He later came to me and said "Some girl tried to hug me, it was weird. We're not even friends, she shouldn't hug me" I tried to tell him that it was fine and there was no need to worry over a hug and just hug her back since it's the work party, but he kept going on about how he didnt like it.
He even admitted that for halloween he made treatsfor the girls at work. I sure as heck didn't get a treat. I was home alone sick on Halloween, laying on the couch.
Now everything seems so off. He says one thing, and then I see another. I'm starting to question everything he ever said.
He's acting so weird... I've never seen this side of him. I don't know what to do.
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He's even out at his bar right this minute. Says "I'm fine but I'm not"