Why is he so nice to me? but doesnt want me to know him?

**noahjeff88** · 16-02-15, 11:25 PM

Met him(~30 y/o) on a dating site ~ 1.5 years ago, but never met in real life. I dont know his face since he never puts his face on there, but he knows mine. We've talked on and off, mostly I messaged him to complain about things/ school/ bf/ ex fb(now). He has always been patient, spent time explaining school stuff and given me advice about bf, life, mostly he told me to focus on study... He is smart, works for a famous company, but he doesnt want me to know his face, or search for him online because his rule is just sending pics to girls wanting to sleep with him. And that rule doesnt apply to me since I dont want sex before marriage. He knows that. But he is still very nice to me. Yesterday, after work, he spent ~7 hours helping me with my college HW. (working online) Next day, we spent other ~13hours finishing it(from 1pm to 1am). He tried to make sure I understand every problems, and cared about my stuff a lot. My question is, would guy do that for any girl? Why doesnt he want to let me know him? Also, he told me he doesnt want me to know about his private life/dating habits( he has another account stating that he's bisexual, but he doesnt know I know it, he's too open about sex), while I'm not in it, so he would feel uncomfortable, and he doesnt really want that.
It's like he cares/ helps me unconditionally for ~1.5 years. And when I ask him what he wants in return, he said "I want you to start on HW earlier next time, dont postpone etc " always giving me good advice.

**Kirito** · 17-02-15, 12:43 AM

What a unique guy, we can consider that because he treat you like a sister or a best friend, maybe he found something about you that he really likes. Did you ask him if he have sister? Or maybe girlfriend? Honestly its very unique for a guy doing that all efforts and he doe'snt need an exchange. And sorry to say this. Maybe there's a possibility that he's doing that not only to you but also in other girls. Well im not sure good luck!

**noahjeff88** · 17-02-15, 01:12 AM

Thanks for the response. I never cared anything about his life before, since I just concerned about my ex bf. But in some conversation long long time ago(when we first talked or something), he told me he used to love only one girl(ex gf). I dont know anything about his family(I've never asked)
Also, yesterday after submitting my hw (at ~12am), I walked home from school at that time. He told me to message him when I got home. A very caring guy. But I dont understand him

**Kirito** · 17-02-15, 01:56 AM

Do you have feelings on him? Why dont you tell him what you really feel?

**Wakeup** · 17-02-15, 08:31 AM

I think its your father.

**pcmaster** · 17-02-15, 09:26 AM

Guy must be lonely or having real problems since he put so much time and energy into you. I think he dont want to you to know him because he things your attitude would change towards him if you knew more.

**noahjeff88** · 17-02-15, 09:43 AM

Why would he care if I changed attitude? He doesnt want to lose a friend? wow

**pcmaster** · 17-02-15, 09:55 AM

Well maybe theres something sad about him and he dont want you to feel pitty for him but accept him as a normal human being. Think you better with knowing less. Also he dont have to be bisexual but for example put bisexual profile out there out of loneliness like many do so he would get more responses from both genders.

Theres no way he would stick for so long and help you that much if he dint get anything from it. Think he likes it.

**noahjeff88** · 17-02-15, 10:00 AM

Can I have my last question for you? Does he have feelings for me? Or he sees me as sister/daughter?

**Wakeup** · 17-02-15, 10:30 AM

Originally Posted by noahjeff88

Can I have my last question for you? Does he have feelings for me? Or he sees me as sister/daughter?

No to first question
Yes to second.

**pcmaster** · 18-02-15, 02:01 AM

I cant give you sure answer here because only that guy can speak about how he feels.
But I can say for sure if guy haven't tried anything sexual so far with you he for sure have father feelings towards you. Then again some say there cant be friendship between man and woman because one sooner or later will develop feelings. Even if guy have developed some feelings and suppressing them is just a guess.

**noahjeff88** · 20-02-15, 10:03 AM

Well, we argued about the thing that he doesnt want to let me know him. I was kind of rude. I asked him "what are you hiding, lying? You are much older? What's wrong with your body? You are famous and dont want me to spread out your dating habit?" He replied "I am dangerous and I am busy killing girls on Craiglist right now, why would you want to talk to me?"
(The night before, I told him about the movie, which has a male character going Craiglist to find girl to have sex and kill them) I am sad, hurt. I disabled my account on that dating site after that. I think he doesnt care anymore.

**Wakeup** · 20-02-15, 11:03 AM

I disabled my account on that dating site after that

Good. I hope he has no other way of contacting you or you him. You've wasted so much of your time on this guy who is likely your father posing as someone else so that you get your freaking homework done. O.o

**noahjeff88** · 20-02-15, 04:37 PM

@ Wakeup: Why are you so mean to me? : /
He has my email address(we used this to chat faster when working on my HW) and I gave him my number, which he never sent me message via them. (We exchanged messages through that dating site). I think he doesnt care to message me.

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