Long term relationships... is arguing overrated?

[kbamford210]

Young adults, ages 16 to 21, that are involved in a long term relationship, the more you are together, the chances of arguments arising over seemingly insignificant things are much higher, how do you attempt to lessen the arguing?

EXAMPLE: The beginning of the relationship arguing is due to bigger issues like not spending enough time together or lack of emotional display. Later down the road arguments begin to lack importance, like the partner being on time or who's paying for what?

[basilandthyme]

Being on time and money handling are not insignificant issues.

A person who is chronically late without good reason (esp without letting the other person know - or who leaves us waiting at a venue for them) shows a degree of conceit. This type of person views themselves as being far more important than the person who is left hanging. Not a good trait in a partner.

Money is an issue which breaks more relationships than anything else. Having similar views on money handling is crucial for healthy relationship.

Think about these things further before you write them off as being trivial.

[JVR_21]

I have never been in relationship but I know that if you find yourself arguing over everything you should try to take time to get back to the base of your relationship. If you just try to take a step back and break down issues and make plans it can make things easier to handle. It may not work right off the bat but it is worth a try!

[jenniferaniston]

Don't expect your long distance relationship to be perfect. Every relationship will have a few bumps in the road, and those bumps can seem magnified by your distance.