First, I'd just like to apologise in advance for getting carried away with how much I'm about to share.
I've lost count of the number of dates, hookups and flings I've had in the last few years, to the point I even developed a reputation among my friends as the guy who changes girls like underwear. In truth, all I've always wanted was a proper relationship with someone I could commit to, but bad luck has a way of finding me all the wrong girls.
I finally found a girl who wants what I want, and ever since the first day we started dating, we haven't spent a night apart. In just 6 weeks of dating, we pretty much already live together, her parents constantly make the effort to get to know me, and she'll be traveling overseas with my family and I next month. This is my first ever relationship, or at least the first girl that can be considered a "girlfriend" so I'm still not familiar with what I should expect. As much as she brings me a lot of happiness, there're a couple of issues that I can't seem to get over my head.
FINANCE
I'm very ambitious and am fairly successful for a 22 year old, being able to afford a Sportscar and support myself comfortably. However, she's a dropout from Uni and is unemployed due to her anxiety and depression which is somehow considered a medical condition to the point she gets a disability pension from the government. This also means that she's mostly broke, leaving me to pay for all the meals and most expenses. As much as I care about her, she's just my girlfriend not my wife. It frustrates me that I work my arse off at work all week, while she sits home and does nothing, and even spends what money she has on pointless things she likes, while she could be contributing financially too. I've reassured her several times that if she decides to get a part-time/casual job, she'll have my full support in every way, but she still insists that her psychiatrist doesn't recommend her working at all. Friends and family will always ask what someone's partner does for a living, and it's not the nicest thing to say when I have to tell them my girlfriend does absolutely nothing!
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
She's a gorgeous girl and I always reassure her of that, but she is somewhat overweight. I know this is a very controversial topic but I don't see anything wrong in wanting your partner to look their very best. Even despite working 10-11 hours a day, I still make time to go to the gym to keep myself physically healthy and attractive for her. She has very little motivation to do anything about her weight eventhough she has all the time in the world. This is affecting our sex life a little because it's hard to be content knowing that I'm more sexually attracted to most of my female friends than my own girlfriend.
MENTAL INSTABILITY
I've had my fair share of life experiences and I did suffer from suicidal depression in the past, but I eventually got out of it stronger and am always optimistic about life now. She's on a daily dose of anti-depressants, and gets the occasional moodswings where she cries for no apparent reason. It takes a lot out of me when I come home from a stressful day of work, and I end up having to be the one to cheer her up. I just wish she could be a happier person because it does bring me down at times too. I know it's not her fault but I don't know for sure if this will ever change in future.
Of course we do have our good times, she's got a good heart and she cares alot about me. It's just those 3 things that make me a little unhappy in this relationship whenever I think about them. I've spoken to my 2 best friends about this and I got 2 different opinions about this. Since this is still in the early stages of the relationship, one side says "Get out early while I can if I don't think she's the right one for me, and it will hurt less"; another side says "It's too soon to tell, and how would I know if I don't give this relationship a proper chance?".
I hope you guys will be able to see this from a neutral perspective because I do need some advice/opinions on this. What should I do? How should I handle this?
Thanks so much for reading!