please can you help me.

[Faye]

Ok...so im a 16 year old girl and I have been at my new school for almost a month. I am in a class with people younger than me because I had to repeat the year due to circumstances at home. I met a guy called Luke. He is also new to the school and has similar issues to me. He is sweet, kind, gentle and funny and a complete gentleman he also has the most gorgeous eyes. But thats besides the point. I really like him alot and I care about him. He likes me too and says I mean alot to him. But he doesn't want a relationship at the moment. He has been through alot of drama in the past year and is quite fragile. I want to be there for him but he's so closed off. He doesn't wanna get hurt again...which I can understand but he is only 15...he cant let the world break him so young..we had a fight on Tuesday (his birthday) and he said that he isn't interested in a relationship and that he doesn't wanna hurt me any more than he has already so he's going to stay away. I really like him alot and I want to wait for him..but iv also been through alot..but I dont want to be alone I need someone who will hold me and tell me everything will be alright. I dont know what to do...or how to feel. There is another guy who is interested in me and there are no complications with him except his age (he's 19) but I dont want to lose luke but I also dont want to be alone. What should I do?

[pcmaster]

Luke is too young for you. Hes simply not in this stage as you. You are older and want more serious things like relationship. Think its about having a good time and not taking things too seriously. Like many young guys Luke dont realize that by trying not to hurt you hes hurting you even more(try to tell him that). I think you should stay friends with Luke and find someone who wants same things as you. Or simply just have as much fun as you can with everyone.

[woody]

You are young and have much time for possible connections. Do not fear solitude as you'll find if your alright with it, it can be one of your stronger suits. Bouncing from one to another may seemingly fill the void but really, it does not.
You must be happy with yourself. Continue your friendships but focus on YOU. Again, there is no rush.....

[jenniferaniston]

Sometimes we get caught up in the negative. We hate our jobs, are annoyed with our friends and our boyfriend or girlfriend is getting on our last nerve. Uh oh, have we been drinking too much of that half empty glass? It’s vital that we look at our partner’s positive qualities versus the negative. Nobody is perfect, and that includes our significant other. So instead of focusing on the bad in the other person, let’s make a conscious effort to look at the good.

[Wakeup]

Sometimes we get caught up in the negative. We hate our jobs, are annoyed with our friends and our boyfriend or girlfriend is getting on our last nerve. Uh oh, have we been drinking too much of that half empty glass? It’s vital that we look at our partner’s positive qualities versus the negative. Nobody is perfect, and that includes our significant other. So instead of focusing on the bad in the other person, let’s make a conscious effort to look at the good.

WTF? O.o ^^^^


Op: He's doing you a favor by distancing himself from you... It's how you'll get over your unreciprocated feelings for him, after all.

Stop worrying about being with boys or even having them as friends. Make some female friends, have fun without worrying about being in relationships or finding yourself crushing on a member of the opposite sex and just be young for a while. Like Woody said, there's lots of time for you to be in a romantic relationship. DO work on your self so that you are having fun while single and have lots of friends and interesting hobbies... being well rounded will make you that much more desirable to members of the opposite sex.